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I changed schools. Now, even if I wanted to approach her, I can't!
Kidding aside, I asked myself "if I am so anxious even approaching her, how can I even be in a relationship with her?" and basically forced myself to decide whether to: "yeah, this is a crush that I won't be doing anything about it, better to not let it linger and move on" or "I must do something about the anxiety."
If my feelings is not intense enough for the second option, the feelings will die soon enough, and will not make me regret that much.
In reality, I tend to think "no, they're more than likely not into me (due to various reasons)", and I'll just let the feelings be until they decay. Did it lead to regrets? Not really. The few times I've actually asked and approached someone I had a crush on, they were flattered, but ultimately told me they're not into me. The more it happened, the more I felt justified in my way of thinking.