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And other people deliberately use all of the "come on man" and "Hey mate" and "Dude is not gendered" explicitly at trans people, because it lets them get away with misgendering. So trans people, who experience that stuff every day, can be a little sensitive when someone does that, even if they aren't doing it deliberately.
In this case, not knowing the person, and not having access to their pronouns, the comment was fine. But once you know it's an issue, repeating it despite knowing it's an issue is a shitty thing to do.