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[โ€“] [email protected] 3 points 1 month ago (1 children)

So I tend to dress "well". I'm not great at fashion, but I shave every morning, force myself to spend a bit of money on nice tshirts, etc.

On the weekends though, I let it all go. I go out to the store in my PJs, I don't shave, I wear my hat and hoodie up, and to be honest look a bit like a thug. I notice people on the street are a little less comfortable walking by, however...

One thing that stood out insanely was the grocery store. When I dress like a homeless person, it is night and day difference:

  • Cashier keeps the checkout stuff closer to them
  • While my card transaction is pending, if I start loading stuff in my bag they're like "oh, oh wait.. It's still pending"
  • Even when I start the small-talk ("How is your day going?"), responses are short

When I dress well:

  • Cashier doesn't mind when I start loading my backpack even before paying
  • Cashiers always smile and ask how my day is

I was planning on writing a blog post about it (plug to [email protected]), but wanted to get more data points first

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Interesting, what happens when it's the same cashier in the two situations?

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 1 month ago

I don't go at a frequent enough schedule to recognize the cashiers, I'm sure it's the same for them