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Slightly. Not in a terrible, life-altering kind of way, but just enough to make me think, "Oh, that's what that's like."
I live in condo building and the average resident here is very old, very religious, and very conservative. No joke, several Lyft drivers have asked me, "So, is this a retirement home? I always thought this was a retirement home." When I moved in as a 26 year old guy with long hair and a ponytail, I did not fit the vibe.
I was changing my bicycle tire in the parking garage and a woman stormed up to me, absolutely convinced that I did not belong there. She said that I needed to be a resident to be in there (so, assuming I wasn't one), then started grilling me about what unit I lived in, how long I'd been there, etc. She must have thought I was stealing the bike, but taking a few minutes to change the tire first; you know, as one does.
It was an irritating but short exchange, and she left quickly. But it still put me in a mood for like half an hour afterwards. And it got me thinking: if you're a minority, you probably get that all the time. Like, you don't even have time to cool down from the last exchange before someone does it to you again.