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A casual community for people with ADHD

Values:

Acceptance, Openness, Understanding, Equality, Reciprocity.

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No abusive, derogatory, or offensive post/comments.
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Do not gatekeep or diagnose.
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No racism, homophobia, sexism, ableism, or ageism.
Respectful venting, including dealing with oppressive neurotypical culture, is okay.
Discussing other neurological problems like autism, anxiety, ptsd, and brain injury are allowed.
Discussions regarding medication are allowed as long as you are describing your own situation and not telling others what to do (only qualified medical practitioners can prescribe medication).

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Funny memes.
Welcoming and accepting attitudes.
Questions on confusing situations.
Seeking and sharing support.
Engagement in our values.

Relevant Lemmy communities:

Neurodivergent Life Hacks

lemmy.world/c/adhd will happily promote other ND communities as long as said communities demonstrate that they share our values.

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A bit fucked up, isn't it? (lemmy.dbzer0.com)

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[–] [email protected] 15 points 2 months ago (2 children)

exist because of ridiculous social expectations

This is called "taking other people's opinions into account". That's what a society is. If you want your opinions listened to and acted on by others, you have to reciprocate.

Do you think "neurotypical" people love dealing with random people's opinions and needs? No, but they see the value in cooperating with others to get what they want. You are "expected" to wear clothes in public because I don't know how often you bathe yourself. You are "expected" to not yell in public because if every rando yelled whenever they wanted, life would be more stressful.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 months ago (1 children)

It puts on the colorful noose and heavy black coat in summer, or else it gets the hose again.

"How we've always done it" is stupid without reviewing why on occasion.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Please re-read:

Do you think "neurotypical" people love dealing with random people's opinions and needs?

Disliking a suit and tie isn't some revelation to "normies". You are not a radical for thinking that. In fact, all the little things that annoy you probably annoy other people too.

This is a clue to easy small talk. Just say that something annoys you. "Oh man, this suit is murder in this heat." It's easy.

Either the answer will be "Yeah man, heh" or "nah, I like it". You have now successfully engaged in small talk.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Disliking a suit and tie isn’t some revelation to “normies”. You are not a radical for thinking that. In fact, all the little things that annoy you probably annoy other people too.

So why do we need to go along with it?

[–] [email protected] 5 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

You know the answer to this. Because the CEO at your company sucks but you still need the money. Many people, even those in your industry, do not wear suits at work. I guarantee it.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

You are expected to slave away for corporate oligarchs so they can continue to in reward the rate at which their unspendable horde of dragon gold increases? You are expected to rollover and take it whilst the SJC strips away our rights and protections? I’m not trying to be an asshole or bring politics into it. I just think it might be important to point out that blanket statements about following societal “rules” might not be such a great idea.