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TikTok is not real life. Nobody I know doesn’t use real names when addressing their spouse. I’ve literally never even met someone who would act the way you’re describing.
TikTok was an example. But those are real couples. I don’t know where you’re from but using real names is definitely not as common
Sounds like they are joking. The situations are obviously engineered and not reality when using a camera to record stuff for reactions and engagement.
using pet names, titles, or other things like that are useful in media when you want to convey the relationship.
Like when a movie has a man greet a woman. If he just said 'hi jill' you wouldn't know who she is to him. If he says 'hey babe' you assume they're in a relationship.
So idk what is actually more common in real situations but it's easy to assume people only use pet names when you're not going to see anyone's actual one on one conversations
I don't get the agenda the other comments are trying to push by pretending people don't use terms of endearment, but don't worry, you're definitely in the right here.
"terms of endearment" or "pet names" are common phrases because of the commonality of pet names, especially in romantic relationships.
Re-read the comments. No one argued that nobody uses terms of endearment. The argument is that using given names doesn't need to be normalized because it's already an extremely normal thing...and that the abnormal behavior would be someone actually getting upset that their SO called them by their given name.
I'm responding to your misunderstanding and mischaracterization of the OP and your straw men "nevers", not other comments that agree with what I'm saying.
I’m guessing you thought you were responding to me, but you weren’t. I never said that people didn’t use terms of endearment. I said I have “never” seen anyone act in the manner OP described as in I’ve never seen someone get mad at their SO for using their real name.
"I’m guessing you thought you were responding to me"
nope.
"I said[meant] I have “never” seen anyone act in the manner OP described as in I’ve never seen someone get mad at their SO for using their real name. "
great.