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[–] [email protected] 75 points 3 months ago (4 children)

I wish they would stop this:

ADHD is one of the most common neurodevelopmental disorders affecting children and young adults, with about 10% of young people between the ages of 3 and 17 diagnosed with the condition.

What about women and inattentives who are usually diagnosed way into adulthood???

This makes it sound curable, temporary or like it only impacts young people.

[–] [email protected] 48 points 3 months ago (3 children)

Diagnosed at 29. I swear if anyone had paid any attention to me I wouldn't have gotten this far with masking.

[–] [email protected] 43 points 3 months ago (1 children)

I read my (dementia/alzheimers) mother’s journals and they were full of “she’s just so angry” and “I don’t understand why her room is so messy” and “She’s lazy and won’t help with the family business, but I would have been happy to as a teenager.”

I’m like damn mom you were never given language to actually understand me.

Even my sister to this day goes: “Well now that you know you have it you can just come up with strategies to overcome it.” 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 months ago

I mean your sister is partly right, you won't completely forget it's there but especially nowadays we have lots of things that can help make life easier, and that's true for a ton of difficulties people have regardless of diagnoses.

The general practice of minimalism makes things soooo much more manageable for me, it reduces the amount of things i have to think about and the amount of distractions around me. It doesn't magically cure me of inattention, but it takes it from being fairly overhwelming to being merely frustrating.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 3 months ago

Ahhh 37 for me, my fiance ended up pushing me in the right direction.

Running through a good portion of my life never really being able to get anything done, not going anywhere and just kinda existing.

I hope that your getting treatment, and it's making an impact in a positive way ❤️

[–] [email protected] 8 points 3 months ago

I try to explain this to my mom and she just thinks I’m being rude. Diagnosed at 33.

[–] [email protected] 18 points 3 months ago (2 children)

Thankfully after you stop being a young adult the ADHD magically goes away.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

Well it goes away after you stop being an adult. Close enough?

[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 months ago

...Only to come back with a vengeance 10 years later

[–] [email protected] 9 points 3 months ago

I have the belief that ADHD is both over and under diagnosed. If you mask or compensate, even hyperactive or combined get passed off as "quirky behaviour", loss of structure was massive for a lot of people getting diagnosed during the lockdowns, while I was in that boat too I had already been working towards getting an eval for years.

Also super annoyed about the hoops we have to jump through to get treatment, feel like I'm a criminal for having my meds and I have to call in a refill every single time I need them, the entire processes to even get diagnosed is almost hostile to ADHD (multiple appointments, evaluations, shit my psych gave me homework)

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 months ago

Re-diagnosed at 44