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What Are Your Thoughts On This? (latte.isnot.coffee)

submitted 1 year ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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This is obviously very upsetting. But I'd also like to know what y'all's answers would be to the question on this meme. This is not something I advocate for I'm going to be transparent about that, I've just noticed things like this a lot on the internet and want to gain some perspective.

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

We all have a right to defend ourselves, but also an obligation to deescalate. It's all contextual. Following black and white rules is not the way to operate in a complex world.

Memes like this serve to stoke anti-feminist sentiment among men. I don't think we should post them, but it's useful to discuss.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

This! Asking "under what circumstances am I allowed to hit women" sounds like you're itching for it.

If your only train of thought regarding domestic abuse is "ohh. Does that mean I can hit back now?" then you're not a victim, you're just a closeted abuser.

If your only answer to a public assault is fighting back you're not concerned with solving the situation, you're just spoiling for a fight.

Sure, there are situations where fighting back IS the only viable solution. But jumping to it immediately means we're not talking about a hypothetical situation - we're talking about a fantasy of yours.