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The answer is exerting the minimum amount of force required to end combat. If a woman is beating the shit out of a man, I would not fault him for striking but he MUST stop the moment he is no longer on the defense and GTFO.
Always try to defuse the situation before it gets physical, defend yourself when necessary only AS MUCH as necessary (the best defence is not being where the fists are), never assault anyone. Pretty simple rules to live by no matter who you are.
I agree and think it should be emphasized that the whole Man vs Woman aspect is a red herring.
I'm not going explode the skull of a child that is trying to hit me in the balls. At the absolute worst I'll give the kid a firm shove to demonstrate that I'm not fucking around, and more likely I can just harmlessly pin them down without much of a struggle.
Conversely if a massive bear of a man grabs me by the throat I will resist however I can with no regard for his life or well-being, because it's my only hope of survival if he's as hostile as he seems.
Sex/gender, age, these things don't matter. Size and ability matter. Treat each danger for threat that it is. Anything else is just stupid gender war bait.
"Sex/gender, age, these things don't matter. Size and ability matter. Treat each danger for [the] threat that it is. Anything else is just stupid gender war bait."
Ding ding ding! We have a winner!