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[โ€“] [email protected] 6 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

I'm on the other side of the fence.

Heartbreak and wasted time is a small price to pay for finding someone to share your life and love with.

Our society values individualism to such a degree, that the idea of sacrificing something for someone you love seems unfair or that you're "losing" something.

I've noticed it with people I've dated that are western. Nothing wrong with it, it's just different.

But it never sat well with me. Seems a bit transactional...

Admittedly my culture is different, so that's probably why I don't mind compromise. In a way, it's an expected part of life. And so we work with that instead of fighting it.

That said, there are fundamental aspects of who I am that I cannot compromise on. Because if I did, I'd end up resenting the person I'm supposed to love.

/mild rant