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So this morning I wasn't able to stand without nearly passing out and thought for sure they weren't going to let me go home. I was really down and having some difficulty processing that I might need to be in the hospital for yet another extra day. It was really disheartening because I had actually been able to walk previous days but after the pain spikes I wasn't able to

I got a motivational call from someone close to me though, the hospital trans outreach person brought the emotional support chihuahua by a couple of times, and I built really specific plans with my nurses and doctors for ways I could get walking again

It took so much work and I was exhausted through the entire way but I managed to do it! Also bonus points I finally managed to poop which was a big event after five days of not ๐Ÿ˜

They let me out of the hospital, one hour car ride back home with only some minor screaming pain toward the end, and I'm back on track again. I've walked around a couple more times today, like to go from bed to food to couch, I'm extremely exhausted, but we're back on track after the couple extra nights at the hospital

I get to bumble around with the catheter for a couple more days still but that will be out soon enough

Update 1: I used a walker but I got out of bed, across the house, and into a couch without help from caretakers! This is the first time I haven't needed someone to at least help lift my legs up once I'm at the target destination. Last night was mostly amazing I finally got more than like two hours of sleep at once (at hospital there were constantly people waking me up for various meds and tests). I did have one brief period of bladder spasms which felt pretty awful but now I know what they feel like for me early on so hopefully I can catch them early next time and get ahead of it. I'm really happy right now

Update 2: Yesterday went well I did a lot of good walking. I'm not doing the full suggested amount yet though I'm running into serious fatigue partway through the day. Today the primary goal is to get through not being able to do bladder spasms meds for 24 hours before catheter removal. So I'm staying really on top of pain meds basically, making sure to continue to shift off the heavy pills and move to tylenol and ibuprofen. Having to be laying down so much is really starting to set in some back pain so hopefully my endurance gets better quickly and I can move around give my back some variety

Update 3: As expected my bladder spasms are casually ignoring the pain meds so I'm trying to find out if there is anything that I can do other than suffering for the next 18 or so hours. Good news though is I made it up two stairs to get myself outside! I said hello to some bees and listened to the birds yelling at each other, smelled some lavender bushes, really helped with mental health

Update 4: If I wanted to torture someone I'd put a catheter in them then just wander off for a weekend. I've only got about 8 more hours before this cursed device comes out of me

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[โ€“] [email protected] 3 points 4 months ago (1 children)

This one was so good, his name is Boy Toy, he's just the sweetest thing. He gets carried around in a little over the shoulder pack and mostly slept, woke up periodically to receive attention, and on the last day in the hospital he was so adorable giving my kisses making sure I knew I got this and I would be able to walk. He's pretty much the exact opposite of the stereotypical chihuahua. Apparently it took a super long time for the person carrying him around to find the right dog and they were searching multiple states. I think more places need emotional support critters they really help a lot

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 4 months ago (1 children)

That'd awesome, he sounds adorable!

Personally I'd like a cat (or 2), as lazy and snuggly as possible! Nothing quite like a big cat wrapped around your arm, snoring with its head buried in the palm of your hand ๐Ÿ˜

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 4 months ago (1 children)

My part Maine coon isn't the most snuggly but soooometimes hell wrap around my arm. For the snoring part though he's a major snorer and often wants to be near enough to me to put his head in my hand but not so near as for full on snuggles. He's my tiny 20 pound son I love him

I'm really going to have to watch out when I'm home though. Whatever side of the bed he first jumps up on he actually wants to hang out in the other side. He's mastered the ability to step over me by putting his full 20 pounds through a single paw on my crotch. Going to be a whole thing trying to get him to not do that during recovery :/

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) (1 children)

"Oh, that spot is sensitive? Lemme just puts entire weight on one paw right there"

I'm familiar ๐Ÿ˜‚ Old family cat (not maine coon) was a big 20 pound snugglebutt, liked to sleep on my bed so I got a lot of cat-assisted napping done ๐Ÿ˜ he had some chronic pain issues (spent a long time in a cage that wasn't big enough for him before we got him) so I think my bed was just the most cushy for him.

It was the other much smaller (declawed(not by us)) cat with tiny little needles for legs that would jab into people when he wanted attention

Edit: OH, and...

CAT TAX!

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 4 months ago (1 children)
[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) (1 children)

heavy breathing

I need to shove my face into the cat belly, claws be damned.

WITNESS ME!!!!

raspberry noises

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 4 months ago (1 children)

I know his belly isn't nearly as good but our other cat actually will let you blow raspberries into his tummy

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 4 months ago

Pirate-Void! raspberries