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[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

No, it's not just that, please see our reply to dandelion in this thread. But as a more direct answer to your question, we don't think we can orgasm from physical sensations alone or might not have ever or be able to, that or they might always be shit.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 month ago (2 children)

We're kind of an odd case, maybe? We aren't sure but we didn't really enjoy sex or masturbation before HRT either, partially due to demisexuality, partially due to expectations and gender roles, partially because we didn't really know what we liked and to some degree we still don't. We also either never had orgasms or considered them pretty bad: "this is it?!"

We are less and less interested in 'content': porn, erotica etc (though whether we ever really were interested or not is debatable). Our fantasies have shifted though whether this is because we're interested in softer things now or what we've always wanted and only now admitted it to ourselves, we aren't sure.

We cried from being unable to do anything about it the other week and how much connection we need before we could even consider doing something so intimate with someone else, so there's probably also some emotional effects from hormones going on.

We also get anxiety and dysphoria from wanting things but not being able to get them met and from having the genitals we have, but they were probably both there to some degree before HRT too, might be stronger now, we don't know.

However, if you just mean the physical effects well, we don't ejaculate any more (at least not when doing things to ourselves, or perhaps from physical touch alone), we get hot sometimes when we 'finish' though 'finishing' is hard to reach most of the time. We didn't really experience random erections much before HRT and definitely don't now, so yeah. We don't really know what an orgasm would be like or if we'll ever get there but we might one day, if not well, either we'll have to shift what we want or just somehow be okay with never having them again or accept they were and always will be shit.

Anything else you'd like to know?

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 month ago

Got to love the soil fandom.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

We might make one, or some{one/many} else on lemmy blahaj zone could.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

Lol, no, people definitely don't agree on that for all people, and yes it can be a choice. Why does it matter if it is a choice? People should be allowed to choose if they are those that can choose.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

Interesting. We thought Pink News didn't report on trans people any more.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 month ago

Ah, okay, thanks for explaining to us.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 month ago (4 children)

Is this supposed to be indicating a problem because like if you like a person why should it matter what gender they are?

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 month ago

Sadly wikipedia is mostly controlled by white supremacists who have a vested interest in being against such things:

Medium article: https://medium.com/@kamy1/racist-wikipedia-da005c564d13

Privacy frontend: https://scribe.bus-hit.me/@kamy1/racist-wikipedia-da005c564d13

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 month ago

That's interesting, thank you!

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 month ago

We didn't find anything about Nirtrile and protection. Could you clarify?

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 month ago

Ah, as far as we know we don't have ADHD, 'just' autism. Yeah, that seems like a likely outcome and way of coping with lower dopamine levels and we are glad it works for you.

We don't think toys etc alone would work, because at least one of us, we suspect all of us are demisexual and so having satisfying stuff is more about emotional connection and long slow sessions, it's what we've always wanted, we think and most we've come across are not like that as far as we know. We also have no idea how to do that with ourselves and as we've grown into ourselves and been more honest we've learned that most images, videos and stories out there don't really work for us, most it does is make us want to do things with others, since we don't really know how to with ourselves and maybe based on our sexuality it isn't possible, or at least not easy.

We appreciate that, if we think of anything we'll let you know.

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