maryXann

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

I have something that may or may not be related: some stuff just makes me physically faint. It's never sudden, I see it coming and if I manage to get away from the trigger, lay down and wait it goes away, but if I can't do it quick enough I know it can be dangerous. Among the triggers are intense pain (like burning your stomach by swallowing something too hot) but also conversations about "real" body horror (a movie is fine, but somebody telling me about how their plan to get an operation often isn't, back in middle school I remember fainting as the teacher was talking about some health risk).

[–] [email protected] 3 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

Not speaking for all of them but sometimes just feeling good about yourself is enough. You can even tell them how you appreciate their efforts (assuming you do)

[–] [email protected] 1 points 4 weeks ago

Reddit wasn't even always like that: I'd say it progressively went downhill during the last decade. Design choices were progressively made to tailor the most toxic users.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 4 weeks ago

My local roleplaying game club. I'd bet half of them, despite not acknowledging it, are considerably deep on the spectrum. Funny bit: My aesthetic ideals clash with those of one of the guys there: he likes things to be well-ordered in neat piles and I like non-patterns. Doesn't stop us from being good friends.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Not diagnosed (yet) but my reason is mostly so that I can get some money if I am recognized as handicaped. It's not that much: I'd still be considered as poor by most metrics, but I'd take it.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 month ago (1 children)

On the waiting line for a diagnosis (I should call them btw), unemployed despite having diplomas. Those last days I am facing a weird puzzle: I have to get analyzed at the lab, which is open from 7:30 to 11 am, and need to be exactly 12h fasting at that moment, but my daily routine involves a big meal at midnight and skipping it would make me well over the 12h fasting duration (and being hungry isn't very fun as you may know). I think I will manage it somehow but currently that's a bummer.

Better: a gal I like a lot is visiting this weekend and it's going to be great. She is one of the only people with whom I am able not to mask.

Also that's a great season for mushrooms. Got a full basket of chicken of the woods last week and still have some left.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 month ago

I do care. I totally get how you can be charismatic in school despite being autistic, that is perhaps the biggest misconception. I personally think if I had no morals and just wanted to make money my best bet would be running some kind of cult (but that would be wrong ofc).

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 month ago

I am a native French speaker who had a phase with an interest toward grammar, so I probably can help you with it if you are learning this language. Also I am quite good at explaining maths to kids or teens, even those with difficulties. It gets harder with adults.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 months ago

People would think the scenario is a bit contrived and they wouldn't believe is wasn't scenarized.

I have a tendency to do the things that will save a desperate situation but also (mostly) create stupid obstacles out of nowhere. Basically 'this guy' from an xkcd strip

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

Oh, one call is already stressfull* for me, but I can manage it. Perhaps it would already qualify as "not comfortable". That said there is a gradation between your average "not your cup of tea but that's ok if you can take your time for it" and "risks having a meltdown in the middle of a phone call". It was dangerously close to that second category.

*Except those from that one person I'd marry if we weren't both 'commies' who think marriage is a thing of the past.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 2 months ago

Good luck! Please tell us how it went, I hopefully will reach the same point as you at some point so your experience interests me.

 

I know it would sound stupid for most people, but not here (I hope?)

So I am in my early thirties and I have a long history of not going enough to the doctor. When I was a child my mother was my referent doctor and she always have been in the "no need to take medecine if it's going to heal by itself" school of thinking (I don't mean that in a bad way: I still got my vaccines, etc, just that she would directly send me to specialists when there was a serious issue). After I left the house I never cared about changing my referent doctor (although of course my mom who lived hundreds of kilometers away couldn't fill this role anymore) so I just stopped seeing any health professional.

As it appeared to me more and more obviously that I was autistic, I wanted to get a diagnostic (it is needed here in France if I want to have accomodations at work and such, also I would get some money that wouldn't hurt). Among all of the steps I needed to consult a doctor. I asked some people I know if they knew doctors who would take new patients, looked all over the internet, made way more calls than it was comfortable... but I couldn't find any. The only appointment I could get had a 6 months delay, plus it was with a substitute, and I was so stressed about it that I messed up the date and came the previous day... In the end I managed to get some papers I needed but nothing more.

About a month ago I was feeling a bit sick and I decided it was enough and I needed something to be done. All the doctors were full, as always, or didn't take new patients, but some were noted as on vacation but with a substitute (and said substitute didn't specify if they took new patients or not). Rather than calling to check, I decided to just get the appointment. At worst they would send me a mail to tell me my appointment had been cancelled or whatever. Still it was very stressfull.

Anyway, my appointment went very well and this substitute doctor was very nice. She told me she would open her cabinet next year and would be able to be my refferent at that point, but also that before that she could work as a "temporary refferent" for most stuff. She looks like a great doctor.

That's all! I hope it wasn't too boring to read through my ramblings.

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