lazyneet

You travel a lot. My last 6 months have been back-to-back classes and I don't see that changing in the near future. I'm not familiar with deep clean techniques, but you reminded me I should probably buy some wet naps. 😸

I'm now on Recon and Scruff. No hits so far, but I do have a few positive things to say about the latter: you can sideload the app, the UI is slick (but at times confusing; still haven't used the "woof" feature afaik), the boys on there are slightly more attractive than the Recon users, there are more of them, and there are trans people. One thing I noticed is that at least half of the guys here really like their facial hair. I know there's supposedly a gene that triggers that attraction, but I can't personally relate.

You don't need to patronizingly explain what a munch is. I've observed these people over several months, and 4/5 of them are nowhere near hardcore kinksters. I don't know where you're from, but around here the general culture is already very soft and removed from the scene. These people want to feel no pain.

1. Yes, there is a fairly well-known fetish club in the city. It would have to be a weekend trip. I'd probably find mostly straight people though. I met a previous (female) partner in a similar way. It was a great relationship, but there was always this feeling that I was more hardcore into kink stuff than she was. I just can't dial it down for those whose interest is more moderate.
2. Femboy psychology is a whole ball of yarn. Do I really want to date anyone who presents effeminate? I'm into it to an extent, but not when it compromises the hard sadomasochism. If those things are opposed to each other (as you say they're introverts) then I might be an exception. I wish people wouldn't be such pussies.

Ideally? A dominant femboy. More broadly, I'm looking for someone about 25-35 who appreciates BDSM dynamics, looks healthy, and doesn't mind shaving.

Neither have I! Have you had a good experience on the other services?

An hour by train gets me to a major city. However, the gay scene there is just a slightly scaled-up version of the backwoodsy culture I'm already in. Most guys are actual baby boomers. Most will say "Oh, you live in [town]? Why?" Fucking income levels, bro.

I feel you on the local kink scene. The couples here aren't even looking for thirds. People go to these meetings just to play pool, and they act like the sex drive has been sucked out of them by some kind of alien parasite. Tops act like bottoms, bottoms act like tops, everyone either has kids or is some kind of little. The only hard tops are bears. 🐻

There is a major city an hour away. Thanks for the list. Any reason you didn't include Scruff? Fetlife isn't for dating. Growlr and Barq aren't for me (not into bears, not a furry). Sniffies and Grindr are hookup sites, so that's kinda my last resort. I'm on Recon right now but it's all dead ends.

May I ask, why are you posting on the sissies board if you have so much internalized homophobia to call LGBT stuff "hype"?

I'm not transfem, I just crossdress sometimes. And also, I would sooner date a transgirl than a cis girl any day of the week. I'm not straight, and what you're saying only applies to straight people, and even then only the homophobic variety.

What standards? I literally just want a boy in the ballpark of my own age and interests. Should I really hook up with guys older than my parents for a few extra bucks? You must be into some hardcore humiliation.