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[–] [email protected] 18 points 7 months ago (2 children)

Not questioning your decisions, but it sounds like you're doing this solo, and likely without parents knowing about it. If that's the case, you might want to think ahead to what will happen if someone does find out.

If you're not in a position where you can trust an adult enough to tell them you're transitioning (for whatever reason that may be), you're likely not going to have a safety net when you do transition. Please think over who might support you in your efforts to become the person you want to be. Especially in a country like Romania, where anything LGBTQ+ is under increasing stress from bigots.

So no, you're not being stupid for asking for help online, but please make sure you know if you can trust anyone from your personal surroundings going forward.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 7 months ago

Yeah, definitely would be interesting to see if the results change. If time permits I might contribute some ideas for the survey. Or if I actually remember to do so, whichever fails first.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Hey at least they hit with the "you will regret this", so the receiver knows in advance there's not going to be an end to the words to come.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 7 months ago

Oh I like that one better!

[–] [email protected] 20 points 7 months ago (2 children)

I swear I'm a good girl...

For this reason I bow my knees before the Father Ephesians 3:14

Lot's of fun yet to be had taking other passages out of context.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 7 months ago

Yes, definitely need more of these! I'll try make some if inspiration hits.

[–] [email protected] 22 points 7 months ago (5 children)

First thought is that trans women who are attracted to men can rest easy knowing cis men are at the very least interested in trans content.

Second thought is that those numbers for everyone on the masculine side of things are lower than expected. Like way lower.

The unsure/questioning category might be hiding some with either a bluish or pinkish hue. Though I fully understand there's a limit to splitting this one into "questioning fem", "questioning masc", "questioning nbin", "questioning fluid", etc. This is where you bring in the multi-question form where you first establish if someone is sure, then ask them about their identity (or the one they're questioning).

Statistically speaking, this is where you start asking yourself if your data is reliable enough to draw any kind of conclusions from. Which it probably isn't. The only reliable conclusions (that you would likely also see if you did a n=10k study) I could probably draw from these results are these:

  • The survey has reached a lot of cis men, which probably means cis men are more interested in trans content in general than one might think.
  • Anything feminine outnumbers anything masculine, at least for this platform.

Bonus thought: I love that strawpoll actually takes data visualization seriously and presents both a properly formatted pie chart and a bar graph. For anyone wondering: A properly formatted pie chart starts at 12 o'clock, is sorted highest to lowest and does not use any fancy 3D effects. Any other visualization relies on labeled percentages to inform the viewer. And if those are absent, you just have to judge which slice is bigger. Visualizing the data the way Strawpoll does here makes absolutely sure no one can misinterpret the results.

[–] [email protected] 17 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Yeah "there are no girls on the internet" kinda thing. Joking aside though, keep in mind that n=370 and sampling from c/Trans probably doesn't give significant results for the fediverse as a whole. Though it is an interesting result.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 7 months ago

That's a bug, thanks for reporting. Should be fixed with the next update!

[–] [email protected] 9 points 7 months ago

Honestly? Didn't think that far ahead. Could be growing up twice as fast, but you might not want that. Could be learning things, in which case yay, but underwhelming. Could also be job/life experience, learning important lessons early to prevent making stupid mistakes?

It's your NG+, so your call. 😊

[–] [email protected] 11 points 7 months ago

Seeing all the recent news I can't help but feel the US is not a fun place to be right now.

I sincerely hope the political landscape calms the fuck down soon, and all of you can focus on the real issues again. It is beyond unreasonable how much attention some of these culture war topics are getting. It is also obviously a divide and conquer strategy and someone needs to break that cycle.

Are you applying for a job that has you representing the company to the public in any way? If so, you might find yourself less free in your appearance than you would if you have a desk job. And it's likely not just about being trans, but other things like piercings, tattoos and hair styles as well.

I'm not sure how well woker's rights are represented in law, either on a state basis or in the USA in general. But you might want to consider finding out with the interview if your potential employer really respects you being trans or not, even if you do so without actually mentioning you're trans. And if not I'm inclined to say the job is not a safe place for you. If you leave this up to chance, you might be in for a nasty surprise later on in your career there.

But I guess it all depends on how long you can afford to look for a job where you're going to be respected for who you really are. If you need work fast, there's also the option of just taking the job stealthily and almost immediately looking for a new job from there. All while pocketing the employment experience, which definitely helps your chances finding other work.

Ultimately there are two things you need to prove in an interview (if you're dealing with reasonable people and not bigots): Whether your personality doesn't make you clash with the colleagues you'll be working with. Wether your skillset matches what the employer is looking for, and employers have this bad habit of not mentioning wanted soft skills in the ad.

Do those two well and the only thing ruining your chances is your potential employer being a twisted bigoted piece of shit, in which case it's their loss.

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