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LMAO my comment saying that cancer got a king was deleted by mods because I guess you can’t say anything bad about the king here. Classic.

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My lawyer and I are working on a restraining order, but every woman who was attacked by her ex-husband knows restraining orders don’t keep you safe. However, things took a turn when my FIL showed up on my parent’s doorstep, and it's the reason I decided to update. My FIL asked to speak with me. My parents told him they would call me and ask but if I said no then that was final and he would not be welcomed back. I only agreed to speak to FIL because he told my parents he was there to apologize for his family and set the record straight. My dad called me as my FIL was blocked from calling me and when I picked up my FIL immediately apologized for his wife’s behavior he wanted to hear my side of the story as he did not believe I cheated. I thanked him (I was never close to FIL but we've always been civil) and let him know of course I did not cheat. I told him of his son’s infertility and that Owen proposed we get a donor. I told him very clearly it was his son’s decision, and that because my FIL and his family put blood as the only valid form of family my husband made me lie so our child would be treated equally. After I finished My FIL seemed stunned, he was quiet for a while then asked if his wife and son could come over and see my daughter in person as they missed us and were ready to be a family again but I told him no. FIL then asked if there was anything Owen could do to fix the marriage and I again told him no. FIL tried to say I was being unfair but my dad stepped in and said FIL was overstaying his welcome. Before I hung up I told FIL that his son was sending me abusive messages daily and if he truly was sorry then he should make his son stop. Then I hung up. My parents said my FIL was irritated that I did not respectfully say goodbye or give Owen a chance to save his marriage but left with little fuss after my parents laid into him about raising his swine of a son to threaten his wife and child. Telling his father must have worked because I haven't gotten a single message from Owen since then. I do not want anything from my STBX, not child support, not alimony, not the house, or any of his other assets. I just need him to agree to the divorce and give up his parental rights so my little girl can grow up with a family who loves her unconditionally. I have a good degree and a great job, my child and I will be fine without him. Owen’s lawyer has made it clear they’re going to fight us for full custody and my STBX has significantly more money than me but my lawyer is confident in our case and I trust them. Today my MIL has been trying to contact me as she wants to be in my daughter’s life and is saying she is ready to accept her "as she is." As if my daughter NEEDS to be accepted by her, if it’s up to me their whole family will never see us again.

ADDITIONAL COMMENTS FROM OOP

Owen’s has destroyed hundreds of thousands of dollars of my electronics, clothes, furniture, and paintings. That’s the only thing I will be making him pay me back for. I don’t want any of his assets just the things I worked hard to earn and he destroyed. There is a report, I don't know what will come of it I had been living with my parents for 2 weeks before the first post and already had started to talk to a lawyer. Whether or not me and my husband worked on our marriage I planned on not living with him for at least a while after he said it wasn’t my house and my parents pressured me to get a divorce attorney immediately when I moved into their house. Even when I still slightly thought things might work out I was preparing. I went back and forth mentally but I knew this was not sustainable. My family did most of the work finding me an apartment and paying for furnishing it just took a while for me to leave my parents and physically move in. The only truly recent update is my FIL talking to me and learning (through my other family) my MIL wants to reconcile

RELEVANT COMMENTS pineboxwaiting You’re a fool not to get child support. You should go for court- ordered support, his paycheck garnished.

OOP Maybe I'm a fool but this isn't his child he doesn't care about her he just wants to hurt me and make me go through this

angelicvixen It doesn't matter if she is biologically his or not. Child support is for the child, and legally, he is the father. You'd be a fool not to go for child support. I get not wanting anything of his for yourself, but, as I said, the support is for the child and goes to the child and represents his part of the care for her, esp if you push for full custody. It's to help provide for her care. Also what a fuckin POS. You're a saint to not push for what you're legally allowed to. God what a dick, I'm glad you got her and yourself out of that situation.

OOP He doesn't want this child, I'm beginning to think he never wanted a child he just wanted to fit the part. I'm going to take care of my daughter I don't need his money, she also has my whole family looking out for her. My baby will want for nothing, why would I force money out of a man who does not love her, and has no connection with her apart from staying in my life to make me miserable?

ashburnmom Going to be buried in the comments but how does one move out, find an apartment, get the rental papers taken care of, move into and furnish a new apartment within 3 days? Seems a stretch.

OOP This update is not chronological by day. I'd been living with my parents for 2 weeks before I made my first post, and my family was working to get me out of my parent's house the entire time as well as furnishing my apartment, I paid for some of the things, and my siblings their partners my parents and many other family members donated and bought things. Trust me I could not have done this alone

THIS IS A REPOST SUB - I AM NOT OOP

My best wishes to the cancer. It must not be easy to contract a king.