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A lot of people answering this struggle to understand what highly-specific means. I'm looking to, for the sake of experiment, highly-specific advice that gives a reader clear understanding of what they should do. Unlike the vague advice, on the contrary, that may be too abstract to get implementing it right away.

Inspired by this post but I wanted to change the question a bit to avoid the really vague answers as well as lower the age bar of target audience for the advice.

I'll start with a bunch myself, to give a better example of what I'm talking about:

  1. Read The Art of War by Sun Tzu. Ironically, because this is a post about specific advice, dude wrote a book with vague rules on how to do war, but the way it is worded is ridiculously good. If you take your time to think about the advice, you can find their appliances in the most unexpected fields.

I, for example, have improved my skill in videogames, out of all places, after reading the book. Sun Tzu said "If it is not advantageous, do not move". Instead of rushing into combat, I now consider whether my position, current health, location of health packs etc. work to my advantage. Sun Tzu made me realise team-based PvP shooters give you room to avoid and disengage combat, you can make more impact for the team if you choose your battle and have everything work for your advantage.

  1. Exercises are not just about a lot of dedication, long commutes to the gym, expensive memberships and the fear of being judged by other gym members. 7 minute workout is a thing and it will give you all the benefits at your own home without the need for equipment, and it won't take much time either.

  2. Buy an old used Kindle. For dirt cheap, you will get a device with a good e-ink screen that works without Internet connection, still has decent battery, is light and small. A new thing that makes reading so comfortable will trick you into reading more and books still happen a good medium for sharing information.

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[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 8 months ago

Therapy is useful and probably would help most people in at least a small way. We're finally at a point where it's not something people feel the need to hide. If there's anything in your life that you think may benefit from it, starting early can go a really long way.

I'm very far from who I was going to turn into because of the many valuable moments of insight found thanks to great therapists (three over ~30y). And don't write it off if you don't vibe with a therapist. Experience tells me that it's about a two-to-one ratio of bad fit to good. Asses in the first few sessions whether you think the person is a good fit and, if needed, move on.

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 8 months ago

My advice is: Don't take anyone's advice.

You're 20. This is the time for you to take a shot at whatever the fuck you want.

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 7 months ago

if you're peeing outdoors, don't pee uphill.

[โ€“] [email protected] 0 points 4 months ago

Have a sense of humor and don't be so serious all the time.

To prove that I don't struggle to understand what highly-specific means - read this book from eCover to eCover.

[โ€“] [email protected] -2 points 8 months ago (1 children)

Given your examples are "Do this" kinds of advice, here's one with no malice or sarcasm: figure it out on your own.

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