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How to meet people (lemmy.world)

submitted 8 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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I'm 41F. I was married but separated 8 years ago. I was still young but was very traumatized and never really wanted another relationship. Lately I've been feeling a little lonely and would like to meet some new people but I moved and don't have many friends here and the ones I have are younger and do younger people things (like going out at night. I'm too old for that lol). I wanted to meet some people my age, friends or dates, but almost everyone is married. I do cooking and French classes but again, only young people do that and I'm the "odd old lady". I think people past 40 don't really have hobbies or money to spend on them. I'm overweight so I can't really use apps, and to be honest don't really want. So how a single woman without kids (can't have it) meet people?! Or do I just give up?! lol

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 8 months ago (1 children)

Do they have to be in person?

[–] [email protected] 3 points 8 months ago (1 children)

Well not really but I don't like dating apps that's like shopping from china lol

[–] [email protected] 3 points 8 months ago

School board, local political groups and Kiwanis/ lions club. You'll probably also find some ppl u align with politically this way.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 8 months ago

Are you into bars at all? Finding a bar that already had regulars who are fun group is a pleasant way to make friends imo and you’ll meet people naturally once you know some people. All you have to do is scope out which one feels comfortable and visit at the same time each week. Obviously watch out for raging alcoholics, but lots of folks are healthy(ish) and just there for companionship.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 8 months ago

Meetup.com has events for a ton of different interests, I've found them to be quite diverse in age but some events are also focused for certain age ranges, so you might have some luck there!

[–] [email protected] 3 points 8 months ago

This is pretty niche, but I'm in a casual curling league and nearly everyone is over 40. Everyone there is super welcoming and friendly.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago)

I have a strategy where i'll get'em really hot by showing off all my 99s, but it's getting to that step that's been the hard part.

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