Jewelry is lovely (if she likes jewelry and it is suited to her taste), but the notes would be so memorable and personal. The most memorable gift my husband ever gave me was radishes — so perfect, and suited exactly to me. We’ve been married 10 years, and he is still just as thoughtful, but that’s a hard one to beat. (They were a heritage variety, and so so good!) If it’s personal and given with love, it’s hard to go wrong.
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You could always get a hissing cockroach named at Bronx Zoo. I find it hilarious that they're selling it as some special Valentine's Day gift.
They even have roach plushies.
Sounds like the unspoken idea is you name the roach after your ex
Although hilarious, don't think that would go over too well 😂
When I started my transition, the butterfly symbolism always really seemed to settle me when shit got rough & gave me something positive to hold on to.
As such, I started photographing butterflies a while back & have been printing them on metal as gifts.
If you’re at all interested, happy to chat further, but here’s a link to my portfolio.
Thank you! I'm going to DM you ❤️
Oh awesome! Sounds good!
Maybe it's possible to get a bouquet that includes flowers that butterflies love. Then write something heartfetlt in the card.
Maybe you can take her to some place that's special to you.
I've learned that flowers give my wife anxiety because she desperately tries to keep them alive (regardless if they're planted or cut) and gets sad when they inevitably die 😬
But maybe I could incorporate a little caterpillar life cycle drawing thing in my love notes I hide around the house that end in a photo of two butterflies together or something 🤔
How about a cactus. You can't kill a cactus. It'll get you first 😂
Ooo good thinking :D plus there are a lot of cacti cuties out there 🌵
You can even stick a bunch of notes on it
Depends a lot on the person. I'm all about jewelry, flowers, and being taken out for dinner. But something thoughtful like the love notes is incredibly sweet and would totally melt my heart. I've also always thought getting some nice pictures taken of the 2 of you is a nice commemoration of your relationship. But that's not necessarily a valentines day thing and may be pretty specific to me lol.
Make the day special for her and for yourself in whatever way feels right :)
Thank you for the suggestions! Pictures sound like a great idea because we don't have many since I came out yet. They've been a bit of a sore subject because all pictures pre-egg crack are me with a beard and you can really see the sadness behind my eyes. Some photos afterwards would be a great gift ❤️