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This is a repost. I am not the original author (see disclaimer at the bottom).

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Original by u/ThrowRA-doistink in r/relationshipadvice

I have been with my boyfriend for over a year and everything has been great except for one thing. Every single day, at least once, he will tell me that I stink and smell of b.o( body odour).

When we met I showered every day, applied regular deodorant in the morning, brushed my teeth three times a day. Now I am so paranoid about smelling bad that I shower at least twice a day, I apply new industrial strength deodorant every few hours (I have a reminder on my phone), perfume, and I brush my teeth anytime I eat or drink something that isn’t water.

I feel like I’m going crazy. I didn’t think I smelled bad in the beginning and I don’t think I smell bad now but I obviously smell bad to him right? Im that weirdo that keeps “sneakily” smelling their own armpits. I have been to the doctor and he has said there is nothing medically wrong. It has honestly gotten to the point where I literally shove my arm pit in friends and families faces asking if I smell bad, they all say I don’t smell like b.o. at all, one friend even said I smelled too clean like a lush store.

I am getting so paranoid. He won’t cuddle or anything when he says I smell. I really don’t know what more I can do?

Update - so unexpected edit. I waited for him to make a comment this morning so I could talk to him. It was less than an hour after waking up that he said “god you stink” I had already showered and put on deodorant. I snapped and asked what exactly was he smelling because, at this point I’m one of the cleanest people on the planet and if I still smell bad to him then we should just break up.

He got all panicked and upset, I eventually got out of him that this is what he father always said to his mother. Apparently his father told him that is was a sure fire technique to have a woman never leave you because “she will feel too low to cheat, will love only you, and will always be clean”.

Needless to say, his father is wrong. He’s packing his things and moving out of my house today

Reminder: I am not the Original OP.

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This is a repost from reddit. I really missed this sub so I decided to post some top articles from time to time until hopefully one day this community will be large enough to produce its own content.

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[–] [email protected] 52 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Believe it or not, straight to break-up.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago

Leave the toilet seat up? Break up.

[–] [email protected] 28 points 1 year ago

This is what real gaslighting looks like.

[–] [email protected] 23 points 1 year ago (1 children)

what a disgusting thing to do to your partner!

[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 year ago

And to teach your kids.

[–] [email protected] 15 points 1 year ago

What the fuck

[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 year ago

The guy would feel like home in Afganistan with other Taliban 😅

Seriously, old story, but still interesting to read.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 year ago

t has honestly gotten to the point where I literally shove my arm pit in friends and families faces asking if I smell bad, they all say I don’t smell like b.o. at all, one friend even said I smelled too clean like a lush store.

Gaslight and trash boyfriend aside, this made me chuckle because of the imagery and I can imagine myself doing the same thing, quite aggressively even.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago

Here I was thinking the boyfriend might be allergic to her perfume/body wash (it's happened to me). Nope, he's a dick.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Why does this sound so fake?

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago

It's from r/relationshipadvice, r/aita would be just as trash