You can't change people
this post was submitted on 07 Jan 2024
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Being polite costs you nothing but may buy you much.
Alternatively, being angry may cost you some elevated blood pressure but may buy you so much.
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You’re good enough. Start where you are.
When someone has had a health issue, ask the people around them how those people are doing. When I was first diagnosed with epilepsy, a person asked my mom specifically how she was doing. She hadn't really stopped to reflect on her own emotional state because she had been so focused on me. It was a great comfort to have someone guide her through thinking about herself.
Buy a fire extinguisher (type ABC is best for home use), and check its pressure regularly. Many of them come with a simple wall mount that is very convenient.
Also, NEVER add water to a grease fire. It will explode.
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Memento mori.
I usually twist this into "memento mori, quoque uiuere" (remember [that you'll] die, also [that you'll] live).
Like, not trying to become worm food full of regrets is nice and dandy, but remember that you'll suffer the consequences of a few of your actions while you're still alive.
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I am a big fan of the advice CGP Grey gives regarding solutions.
Don’t pick the first solution that comes to mind for a problem, it is most likely the least effective.
Being really good at the intersection of two different things is often a much more valuable skill set than being excellent at just one thing.
Exist outside the box.
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Live a little. We'll all die at some point.
Water dripping? Don’t call a plumber yet. Get on your hands and knees and try to figure out exactly where the water is coming from. You might need a $5 part and 10 minutes watching a YouTube video instead of a $400 callout. The same concept applies for most things in a home or vehicle. But don’t screw around with electricity if you don’t know what you’re doing.
If you’re shopping around based on price, make sure you’re factoring in the cost of gas and your time. Driving an hour to save $5 actually costs you money.
Need to quickly determine if a caller is a scammer or legitimate? Just ask who they’re calling. If they don’t know your name, you can hang up immediately.
Maintain your things. All your things. If you use something until it’s no longer working, it has moved from inexpensive maintenance to expensive repair.
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Don't put WiFi dongle and wireless mouse dongle in neighbouring USBs, they are probably working at the same frequency and will interfere with each other.
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Learn to let things go, you're not special.
Always remember that on any given day several people are having a shitty day.
What do you mean by 'buck buying'? I've never heard this term before.
I think they mean buying in bulk.
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Don't believe the hype.
"A man's mind changed against his will is of the same opinion still."
The only argument you win is the one you avoid.
Life exists within the grey area that is constantly bombarded by polarized extremism. Don’t buy into the “all” mentality. Because in reality it’s always just “some.”
Put the seat of your toiled down before you flush if you don't want to end up with shit microparticles on your toothbrush.