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I'll go first: "You have to have children when you're young," told to me when I was in my late 20s, with no desire to ever have kids, and no means to support them, by someone divorced multiple times with at least one adult child who does not speak to them.

Also: Responding to "How do I deal with this problem?" questions with "Oh, don't worry about it, it's enough that you're even thinking about it!"

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[โ€“] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago (1 children)

"Just don't be germaphobic"

OH, WHY DIDN'T I THINK OF THAT!? THAT COULD HAVE SAVED ME YEARS OF THERAPY!!

[โ€“] [email protected] 9 points 1 year ago

People treat mental health stuff like it doesn't exist. Like if someone has a broken arm, and everyone tells them "Just stop having a broken arm!"

[โ€“] [email protected] 9 points 1 year ago (3 children)

When I wanted to cut back on my drinking: "Just don't buy it."

Look, it's great that you've never been addicted to anything, but it also means that you're in no position to be offering addiction advice.

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[โ€“] [email protected] 9 points 1 year ago

Everything my father ever said to me. Tecate cans look like coke when your driving comes to mind as maybe the best.

[โ€“] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago

2 days ago we had a moving up ceremony, and the speaker said that the secret to a successful life is "Honor your parents and Honor God". That advice wouldn't apply to everyone...

[โ€“] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago (1 children)

How can you know if drugs are for you if haven't tried THEM ALL?

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[โ€“] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago (2 children)

"Just be yourself and you'll make lots of friends at your new school."

Four years of constant bullying and loneliness later: I have one acquaintance that would eventually become my friend after a few more years. I also have basically no self-confidence, and my social development is set back half a decade as I'm still looking for friends to have sleepovers with when everyone else has moved on to normal teenager stuff.

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[โ€“] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago (2 children)

So many bitter old men told me never to get married, my family is the best IDK if odd even still be alive out it wasnโ€™t for them

[โ€“] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Idk man, I've never gotten married and it's been fine for me. My girlfriend and I have been together for 14 years, have 2 kids, and our family is all that has kept me going through this shitty world. Never married though, so many there is some truth to the advice.

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[โ€“] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago

Money doesn't buy happiness

Like fuck it doesn't. This is class war propaganda and shouldn't be confused with the idea arseholes are better at making money.

[โ€“] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

"The boy next door is punching your arm because he likes you."

Thanks, mom... Taught me to confuse abuse with love.

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[โ€“] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)
  • I lost my thing.
  • Where did you see it last time?
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