Polysecure and opening up would be my recommendations. Ethical slut did not connect with me at all
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Working through Polysecure now and it's all kinds of revelatory. There's a recent sequel: Polywise. Heard that's a good read, too.
Also a huge fan of The Ethical Slut!
I liked it a lot better than Polysecure, which was more psychology than polyamory. Also not as huge of a fan of Sex at Dawn, which was more like anthropology than actionable poly material, though it's good for what it is.
I read The Ethical Slut and liked it as an introduction, but really did not connect in any meaningful way. I am happy that introduced me to the idea of check-ins tho.
I am not a huge book reader (I prefer zines, if you have any recommendations pls send them to me <3), but the other polyam/non-monogamy book i read was Polysecure and that felt way more relevant to me. I learned a bunch about attachment stuff and got helpful questions/exercises to reflect and learn.
I really enjoyed Opening Up. It has interviews with people that have been (or are) in ethical non-monogamous relationships, and shared their stories. So it's down-to-earth & practical info that people learned by "being in the trenches," so-to-speak, and not some academic theorizing or some-such.
I know that this question is quite old now, but I recent read the new Multiamory book and felt that has some excellent guidance and ideas in it. I’ve listened to the podcast for some time so that makes sense :)
The other one which is particularly good for me as an anxious person is The Anxious Person’s Guide to Non-Monogamy
I have read and loved The Ethical Slut, but in general I'm not a huge reader! I enjoy the Multiamory podcast, even though it gets a bit repetitive!