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I'll start! There was a lot of absolutist rhetoric there that said things along the lines of "All Christians are terrible, horrible, no good, very bad people!" I think a little nuance is in order, no?

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[–] [email protected] 56 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

Provide rules that require religious tolerance, while still allowing respectful criticisms of said religions.

Basically just avoiding the edge lord/ hate speech stuff.

Over at /r/nihilism we always had a similar issue.

Any posts that are critical of religion should be fact based and impartial as possible. Sources should be required.

As an example:

Posting a rant about how how you don't like Islam: [deleted]

Posting a link to a news article about the statistical rate of s**ual harassment in the catholic church: "A+"

(Just examples)

All that being said, I think we should more focus on how to live our lives positively and effectively. A lot of people perseve atheists as having no motivations/ being unreliable. I think we should try to overcome that image by focusing on progressing our own "beliefs", and spreading our message: "Life is what you make it."

We should also strive to be a safe place for recent refugees of different religious backgrounds. Not only should we be a place of open discussion and critical thinking, but a place of support and recovery. That's more my opinion, though.

I would love to see posts like:

"Tips on staying positive after recently losing your faith"

"Rebuilding a social network after cutting ties with toxic family"

"How to come out to your religious family as atheist"

"I recently came out as atheist and my family disowned me, what should I do?"

"What are some good movies you'd suggest for an atheist?"

"Here is some art I made as a social commentary on religion"

"Making eye contact during prayer"

Etc...

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Seconded.

I personally have adopted an "as long as it's not hurting anyone" view of religions for individuals and smaller local groups, but I recognize that there's a lot of factual hurtfulness that goes on systemically. That inherently will try and make this community devolve into intolerance, so there's a tricky balance of moderating intolerance and welcoming open conversations that I don't have the answer to.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 year ago (3 children)

One thing to keep in mind is that some people are anti religion due to experience. There are a lot of religions that ARE hurting someone by fly under the radar.

For example, I always see people say Lutherans are chill. Look up LCMS, it's a literal cult. I grew up in it. There is a lot of abuse prevalent in it, ie teaching you how to hit your kid "correctly".

But then people who speak up about it are labeled as "intolerant" or "edgelords" because "but everyone else told me Lutherans don't hurt anybody!"

And even beyond that, there can always be specific churches within religions or denominations that are seen as "okay" that are abusing their power to hurt others. I am not going to go out and attack religious people or anything, but I'm also not about to be neutral on the subject when I know it opens up a world of potential abuse.

I am very against requiring religious tolerance, abuse victims require a place at the table.

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago (2 children)

there's a tricky balance of moderating intolerance and welcoming open conversations

Where does not tolerating religiously motivated hatred and intolerance fit into that framework?

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

I used to be one of those toxic circlejerkers on r/ as a newly-deconverted teen with no life, now as a more mature adult I’ve also adopted that more nuanced stance- a major reason why I left that sub a long time ago

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

What is the point of censoring the word sexual?

[–] [email protected] 26 points 1 year ago

This will definitely be too much to ask, but if we didn't have regular "why are you an atheist?" threads like r/atheism had every single fucking day, that would be lovely.

[–] [email protected] 19 points 1 year ago

I was happy with r/atheism. A lot of good people. We had some I didn't agree with, but that is ok. I'm sure we'll be the same here.

Welcome to the internet.

[–] [email protected] 17 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (5 children)

Maybe a greater respect for the biological reality of limbic needs. People who are religious aren't automatically morons for simply being religious. Spirituality is an essential part of what makes us humans. So, perhaps we could do better to vocalize that respect, while still addressing the specific truth claims.

Also, helping believers ask their own questions without attacking the fact they've been led to believe something would go miles further in helping them develop critical thinking skills.

Insults only drive people deeper into superstition and fundamentalism.

EDIT: Check out "Street Epistemology" on YouTube for what (in my subjective opinion) seems to be the most efficient way to help people think through their beliefs.

EDIT 2: It seems we may be defining spirituality differently. I am NOT talking about supernatural beliefs. I'm talking about an emotional sense of connection to something bigger than oneself. The things managed mainly in the midbrain, especially through the limbic system. Spirituality =/= superstition, though the latter has become deeply entrenched in popular spiritual pursuits.

EDIT 3: "Something bigger than oneself" = Any natural system of which you are a subcomponent.

[–] [email protected] 17 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Spirituality is an essential part of what makes us humans.

Source?

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I read that to mean "Spirituality is an essential part of [human history, and is still prevalent today in most cultures]." In other words, it's an inseparable aspect of humanity. Just as erring is human.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

This kind of makes it sound like concerns over inner experience or universal ontology are erroneous. Ofc superstitious and fundamentalist instances of this are error, but "spirituality" does not depend on either of those.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

No I knew what you meant, I just would like to see where you’re getting that idea from

Not to sound adversarial, that’s not at all my intention. But you can’t just say common human desires are a conditional requirement for humanity without strong evidence to back it up.

I could just as easily say “Wanderlust is an essential part of what makes us human. Everyone needs to travel the world and connect with new places and cultures. It’s ‘cause of the way our brain is”. Many people want to travel, yes, but is the way I phrased that correct? Can I prove that?

But either way, I agree with the spirit (hah) of what you’re saying, just feel like that’s a weird angle

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I'm not sure we're on the same page yet. Please bear with me...

Spirituality refers to concerns with the inner human experience. Dualists would say they're concerned with the "soul/spirit" of a person, but you and I know we're talking about emotional functions of the brain.

My whole point is that being concerned with inner experience is quite natural.

Naturalistic peeps like you and me would obviously prefer science-backed approaches to this (e.g. certain breathing exercises/meditation/mindfulness/productivity/self-improvement/education), but many people prefer superstition and fundamentalism... pursuing tradition-backed approaches.

The ignorance lies in the approach, not the concern.

Calling people stupid or ignorant for mere inner experience pursuits just isn't helpful, because inner experience pursuits... the design is very human 😂

That's not to say all people are or should be concerned about their experiences. It's just not dumb for people to be concerned about it.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Yeah like I said I know what you’re saying. I think it was just phrased weirdly. Your third and also your final paragraph better represent how I (not that I’m anyone important) would have liked to have seen the idea communicated in the first place

Edit: also still seriously curious on a source for the neuroscience you’re referring to

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

To provide you a source I guess I'll need to know the parameters of your question. There's a lot that goes into subjective feelings of connection, concerns with inner experience, recognizing our place in larger systems, etc.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

To be honest, I think if I try to continue this conversation I’m going to become unacceptably snarky. So I’m gonna dip. I appreciate your perspective, please enjoy your weekend!

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

Same to you, friend!

[–] [email protected] 14 points 1 year ago (12 children)

Spirituality is an essential part of what makes us humans.

I guess I'm not a human.

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago

I’m talking about an emotional sense of connection to something bigger than oneself.

My house is larger than I, and I really like it. Is it what you mean? If not what do you really mean?

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago (3 children)

I see spirituality as similar to sexuality: wildly popular across and entwined with every culture for obvious biological/social reasons, but just as I don’t see asexuals as being less involved in the “human experience”, I don’t see spirituality as essential to humanity.

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[–] BravoVictor 2 points 1 year ago

Lol. Holy shit the replies to this…

Slow your roll, everyone. Maybe don’t grab onto the ‘Spirituality is an essential part…’ so fervently. If it doesn’t apply to you, good for you! Sure, it was worded in a way that made it sound like it was applying to all humans, but the sentiment of the post was a plea for a bit of grace when dealing with people coming to terms with religion. No need to be so dang pedantic.

No, ‘spirituality’ isn’t vital for human flourishing, but it’d be folly to say that it isn’t an important dimension of human experience. Just not ALL humans, and certainly fewer now than in decades past.

[–] [email protected] 15 points 1 year ago

As lurker, I felt it was more doom, and watching the decline of civilization by the Christian fascist. And sadly those are clearly issues to be concerned about.

I think this community is starting to wake up and realize it's not a small fringe part of society but a growing part of the soon to majority.

Now is the time to have discussions on what issues most concern the group and how to we proceed. Stop being "independent" or in the side line but register for a political party and start effecting change.

Steps off soap box

TST news is good shrugs

[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Might not be bad people entirely, but religion is fundamentally poison to society.

The best thing to avoid would be giving the impression that religious belief entitles someone to having those beliefs respected. Nobody owes them that kind of pandering.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

Exactly this. Respecting the human is important, but nobody owes a thing to a belief.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I was fine with the old place tbh.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Removing /r/atheism as one of the default subs was one of the first real signs of reddit going downhill.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Honestly, and I might struggle a bit to explicate this, but I don't necessarily think that places like r/atheism are without value. I am an atheist, but I'm not "interested" in atheism -- one day in adulthood I realized I don't even think about religion at all anymore. Unless there's some zealot freak on the news, I forget religion or religious people exists day-to-day, and my general course in life does not bring me into contact with religious people anymore. This is a luxury not shared by all, of course. I was an angry atheist who liked to use words like Christofascism and smirk about the sky daddy. Later in life I went to a Richard Dawkins rally to hear Tim Minchin play and it didn't have the same resonance for me because my lack of religion was a given.

But when I was in high school? When there was actual social pressure for religion coming down on me? The hostility I took from religious people was remarkable. It could have ruined me. I was angry, then, and at that time in my life I had to be rude and mean and hostile and throw back every insult and strawman I could get to get that freedom from religion. The smirking, fedora atheist with a bad attitude is annoying, and a community of them is not the type of place I want to spend time, but I think it's so important that they have that community to develop that anger and language when it's a weapon they need to fight.

[–] BravoVictor 3 points 1 year ago

Yeah, after a while, it does make you wonder if it’s all that necessary to be in a club that identifies itself by the fact it doesn’t believe in god. I’m not in the ‘Santa isn’t real’ community, but I sure as shit don’t believe in santa.

At least in a community identified as ‘atheist’, we might act as a spot for people who are questioning their religion to ask/see what life is like for people who aren’t.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

cheese, for a start.

catheists are mostly lactose intolerant.


sorry, couldn't resist

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I've never liked r/atheism because it just felt like it was mostly populated by teenaged edgelords that treated atheism like a subculture they were into at the moment. Pizza-cutter atheists, all edge and no point.
Everyone else was butthurt and chronically angry. I'd like to see more activism, more community building, more maturity. Less butthurt.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

And a lot of it was driven by some past trauma or whatever. They go to r/atheism to vent, not to have honest conversations. Signal-to-noise ratio got pretty bad at times.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

I mean I understand the anger. I think every atheist deals with it at some point. But you gotta move on and let that shit go. I'm getting old now and it's just tiresome. I'm not interested in tribal BS. I'm interested in chatting with folks who see the world through the same lens I do without that shitty sense of superiority so many atheists seem to have.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

TBH, I actually unsubbed from r/atheism years ago, because I didn't like how overrun the sub became with anti-religiosity. Don't get me wrong, I personally identify as an antitheist, but for me that means being opposed to religion on an ideological level, not thinking all believers are idiots, willfully ignoring the good some aspects of religion have done in the world, etc. There should absolutely be a place in atheist communities to vent anger about the harm religion does to society, but it got totally out of control in r/atheism eventually, to the point where reasonable, nuanced discussions became impossible to have there.

I also noticed that the community and mod team seemed to conflate atheism with a liberal political alignment. I'm a liberal, so I wasn't affected that much, but I don't see how there was any space for a conservative atheist on that sub. That's not what a general atheist community should be about IMO.

I just subbed to this community, so I haven't had the chance to get a feel for things yet, but I like what I see in the sidebar. So long as this place doesn't get dominated by radical antitheist rage-a-holics, I think I'll like it.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

Needs to get back to the glory days of non-professional quote makers IMHO

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

browsing r/atheism is like being run over by a truck full of middle schoolers who got lost on their way to bully kids at the park because they've never touched a boob. like bumping up against their teacher's armpit makes them better than everyone else. the fundamental core of the subreddit is rotten and needs to be scrapped entirely.

if you want this to be a good group, one that appeals to thoughtful, interesting, and cool people, instead of stuck-up, gatekeeping dorks who do nothing but shit on religion all day (we get it, we are all atheists, you're preaching to the choir), it's gotta be the opposite of r/atheism. that is, be a community that is home to atheists, one where any and all topics can be discussed, rather than a community about atheism, where atheism is the single focus. in the former, i can talk with members of my atheist community about a movie i enjoyed; in the latter, i can only talk about atheism. in the former, i can talk with my atheist online friends about this wonderful book i'm reading. in the latter, i can only talk about atheism. you get the point.

good luck, have fun

p.s. sorry to end this so abruptly. things need doing, and i think i made myself clear enough. <3

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