I got overweight from the loss of my legs from a spinal injury. My fiancé left me and I haven’t held a serious relationship since. I am a supporter of all rights. So not all of us that are dateless. Are hateful misogynists. Some of us just had a bad deal delt to us.
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I don't think the two are fully related, at least not causally. If 1-3 are true, then there should be a large enough pool with things in common to avoid loneliness. If this specifically means sexual/relationship loneliness than, yeah.
Third spaces going away and moving a lot online has definitely had an impact on people hanging out outside of much more niche groups. I don't care for organized religion much, but people of various backgrounds worshipped together. People had volleyball and other local leagues made up of all kinds of people who saw a flier for it. Men (not sure if women had something similar) went to fraternal order of the whatevers. Hell, dad and I went to Commodore computer enthusiast meet-ups. I think the loss of things like that has been bad for a number of reasons, including loneliness.
then there should be a large enough pool with things in common to avoid loneliness. If this specifically means sexual/relationship loneliness than, yeah.
Your last statement is correct. Most men aren't socialized to have deep emotional relationships with their male friends, so they have to rely on a romantic relationship to do all their emotional support (if they even do that, there's some that are also so convinced the women will hate them if they get emotional). Women haven't felt as much of the pain of the loss of 3rd spaces for socialization because it's socially acceptable for them to have emotional relationships with their friends.
Oh wow, another meme completely disregarding a problem many are struggeling with. But don't worry guys and gals, it's okay because it's making fun of mens' suffering. And men can't be discriminated against.
On another note, has anyone figured out yet, why men are never emotionally available? It truly is a mystery 🤔
/s in case you can't tell.
Silly men just need to understand that saying "I'm lonely" and "women belong in the kitchen" are equivalent. So don't you dare ever talk or reach out if you're lonely.
It's a real shame that male loneliness is so quickly dismissed because it would be a great starting point to begin talking about how traditional male friendships tend to keep each other at a distance, and maybe come up with ways to bridge the gap so existing friendships can become deeper.
Instead it feels like the conversation just gets to this point where we all collectively shrug and say, "shame" and never really talk about it more than this.
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there is a ~~male~~ loneliness epidemic
FTFY
I think it's phrased like this because it's less acceptable for men to express feelings like sadness or loneliness. men and boys who are lonely and alienated can more easily fall down the Andrew Tate/4Chan/Jordan Peterson/blackpill pipeline which yields violent extremist behavior. Obviously it's not only men
Women don't have the same issue because it's socially acceptable for them to have deep emotional connections with their friends, where as men are mocked for being gay if they open up to their buddies about any kind of difficult emotion.
I have had the good fortune of being borderline gay with all my friends for my whole life. I wish it upon everyone
i don't think so, if there was another context i would absolutely agree with you, but following the discourse this, on my eyes this is phrased more like "men are getting more lonely but not women" or "men are getting more lonely, and it's because of women"; if it was another person, this would be the case, but this text did not mentioned any social acceptance of man's loneliness
You're not wrong. I think if anything this is making fun of men who fall down the hate pipeline
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Yeah, that’s not at all what the male loneliness thing is about at all. Was the point of your meme to make fun of how ignorant people are about this particular issue for men or were you trying to suggest the issue is invalid and the result of misogynistic assholes? Because if it’s the latter I think you just demonstrated your own ignorance and should probably spend some time trying to empathize more with men and educate yourself.
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It's pretty much everybody but go off I guess
https://www.hhs.gov/sites/default/files/surgeon-general-social-connection-advisory.pdf
There are multiple ways to get to the loneliness stage. The meme identifies one way that is self inflicted which starts with misogyny and spirals from there.
The problem is the format of the meme implies that the last panel is invalid, and that the conclusion "there is a male loneliness epidemic" is something only women hating clowns believe.
I guarantee if the last panel was stated like "why won't women date me" or "I'm lonely" or even "I'm only single because of the male loneliness epidemic" then there wouldn't be nearly as much backlash in the comments
The conclusion is that the person is causing their own loneliness by steps 1-3, but is blaming the epidemic (which is actually caused by lack of community and other non-asshole based causes).
Well then this is a poor choice of meme template, which is probably why this post is turning out to be so divisive. This meme format is used to mock a series of increasingly ridiculous statements/beliefs/actions. Here, the final and therefore most ridiculous statement is simply "there is a male loneliness epidemic". If the intention was not to mock this statement, and supposed to mock people who blame the epidemic for their problems, there are many ways it could have been worded to be clear about that, but currently it reads to me (and clearly many people) as direct mockery of male loneliness.
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I doubt the first 3 statements are the same person as the fourth in most cases
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