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For example I'll send an e-mail with 3 questions and will only get an answer to one of the questions. It's worse when there are 2 yes/no questions with a question that is obviously not a yes/no question. Then I get a response of

Yes

back in the e-mail. So which question are they answering?

Mainly I'm asking all of you why do people insist on only answering 1 question out of an e-mail where there are multiple? Do people just not read? Are people that lazy? What is going on?

Edit at this point I’ve got the answers . Some are too lazy to actually read. Some admit they get focused on one item and forget to go back. I understand the second group. The first group yeah no excuse there.

Continuing edit: there are comments where people have tried the bullet points and they say it still doesn’t help. I might put the needed questions in red.

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 week ago

I've been reading the responses and it reminded me of the class I took called Business Communications, where they emphasized that CYA style communication was absolute nonsense, your responsibility when communicating is to convey information in a way that can be received, and if that doesn't happen it's your fault, not the recipient's, you can't control them only you.

So if this is just one person who misses all the questions, sure, it's them, but you still need to figure out how to get your answers. If it's everyone, it's you. Maybe these questions aren't amenable to email, maybe it's your format, if you want answers (and not just to prove you asked in some sort of gotcha game) you need to ask the people who aren't answering why they aren't.

Everywhere I've worked, people answer these by choosing a different font color and writing answers back in the email, but there are not a lot of questions by email. Maybe a note to "provide answers in BLUE" with the word blue in blue font would help?

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

It's funny that some replies are saying your post itself is too wordy or long. People just can't focus on anything anymore. As for the suggestion of bullet points, I've had people reply a single answer to an email that just had three short bullet points. So no, it's not always because the questions are buried in text, it's because people react to the first thing they see and don't finish reading.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 weeks ago

Yeah, the post is short and clear and everyone's assumptions are that the poster is wordy and unclear. The reponses are mostly examples of exactly the people who can't focus on an email longer than a sentence.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 weeks ago

I'm not sure. Maybe. Sometimes. I don't know.

I can only tell you that my best results have come from replying with a neutral "Thank you", then repeating the questions. I prefer it when they answer all my questions, but ultimately, if I want answers, I need to persist, and so I do.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 week ago (2 children)

I run into this when texting my mother.

She'll ask the same thing from 2 different perspectives (probably a better word but I can't think of it atm). Both are technically the same question, but I can't just say "yes" it "no", because it answers the question from just one or the other, but indicates the opposite from the other question's pov. Or sometimes needing to know between 2 possibilities she asks about one and then follows it up asking about the other.

For example, if we've recently met up to see my baby niblings (not even sure if this is a common use word, but I mean my nieces/nephews, aka her grandchildren), she could ask "Could you send me the photos you got in a text?" And then she would follow up with something like "Or did you already send them to my email?"

Now, I can't say "yes" or "no", I have to spell out what I did.

Other times it will be a question that she knows I picked one of the 2 options, but instead of just "did you do option A? Which would allow a quick answer "yes" which conveys that I did A, or I could say "no", which would indicate I did option B. One word, clear defined message. But she'll (sometimes during the process of replying- oof that's frustrating), she'll add "or did you do option B?" meaning I now have to spell out what I did.

I like efficient communication, and hate wasting a lot of words. And I'm any other circumstance, a 1 word answer works so well to convey the entire thing. But she almost always throws in a wrench by adding another question that conflicts with the ability to do that.

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[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 week ago

I usually number my questions, makes it more obvious

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 weeks ago

The reader might think that your questions are overlaping, making adressing every question redundant. You might want clarity. The reader thinks you can figure it out based on their one answer. They don't want to spend the time to confirm that which you already have the tools to get to yourself.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 weeks ago

I skip questions I don't want to answer.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I haven't done it very often, but the few times I haven't answered all off the questions in an email has been because some of the questions are a waste of time. I had an engineer recently ask me if I could move the location of where I was running a pipe through a floor grating. Changing the location would have changed nothing, made my job more difficult, and would have been a tripping hazard. All off this could have been avoided if they had gotten or from behind their desk and just gone and looked at what I was working on in person. I ignored their question and sent more pictures of the area. They finally said that I was good to proceed with my original plan.

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[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 week ago
[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 week ago

Sometimes I'm busy man and trying to get something done

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Even when we converse, we get across just one point at a time. You have to respect other people's time and bandwidth (Okay, one or two points).

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

Yes because when are conversing in person you are conversing synchronously.

Only one person talks at a time and for the most part only one major subject idea question or problem is considered at a time. You talk about one thing and then you move along and talk about another thing.

This is not necessarily the case with written language. Where you have the benefit of talking about many things, changing subjects, and listing information out. And the reader can work through this at their own leisure and at their own pace without feeling overwhelmed

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I've had my fair share of issues with not getting a complete response from e-mails. And so I changed the way I look at it. It's not like it will take weeks to get all the information you need just because you didn't get everything in one go.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 week ago (3 children)

Speak for yourself. We've had YEARS of delay because someone answered "no" to a 2 part question when they completely ignored the first part.

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[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 week ago (1 children)

If you ask 10 questions and I know the answer to two of them, I’m going to answer the two and respond expecting someone else to answer the other questions.

If they are all directed at me and I’m the only person in the TO, then I’ll answer what I can. The times I don’t answer is because I either don’t have an answer or don’t want to answer it right now.

Instead of immediately blaming the other person, reflect upon your words. If someone sent you the same message with different but similar questions, how would you respond? Were the questions clear and concise with reasonable answers or do they need discussion? If yes/no is asked, is the question really a yes or no question?

Remember, as busy as you are, the other person may be busier or dealing with emergencies and they are at least attempting to respond rather than just no response at all.

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[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 week ago

If you've got questions, put them in bullet points.

I'm not scanning a wall of text to find everything.

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