Not my note.
It's so easy to rip people down. Pump someone's tires. It means way more than you can imagine.
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That was my first thought, but then I remembered the tiny campgrounds I've stayed at. Now I'm imagining this guy only like 7-8 feet away from the family
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I think I would remember this for 5 years if it happened to me, which means I should do it to others
Absolutely. And I'd remember it forever.
I once had someone tell me on discord that they stopped cutting themselves because of me just being nice to them, when they had trouble making any friends. I'll never forget that.
Like 10 years ago I had a stranger come up to us in a restaurant and compliment how well behaved our kids were and I still remember it.
Make sure you confuse them though, give notes calling old grannies great fathers and fathers letters about the joy of child birth.
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I've personally lost all sense of masculinity. There's no positive feature I would think men should have and women not, or vice versa.
To me gender norms feel weird and toxic, except there are folk in our trans community that get a lot out of representing as their gender.
But telling people they rock is a good thing I think. 2025 is expected to a lot of bad days.
No yelling,
Kids behaved,
Didn’t see you hit your wife (even once)!
The bar is set hilariously low, and a lot of people still don't make it.
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I would have that shit framed
Nah, got to use wax, and stick it to something like a 40k purity seal
In the crisp brightness of the forest campground, there are only supportive neighbors.
That is awesome.
And in answer to the question in the title: Yes. Yes it is. Toxic masculinity has never been about man=bad or anything. It's about finding better ways of being masculine. That's what it was always supposed to be.
Good men are real; I've met many of them. It isn't some impossible ideal, but a process of self improvement that anyone can jump on.
Is it OK to 💩 on men in the meantime? (I’m a man who’s usually fine with it.)
e.g. IDK, “men are predators” or something - really broad brush stuff that has an origin in accuracy, but is a majorly broad brush all the same. I’ve wondered if we don’t need to be more careful with those statements, as heartfelt as they may be.
So long as it's measured self depreciation, it's probably fine. If you want a women centered version of this, see @[email protected]
Ah maybe not self deprecation, like maybe you see a story about a rapist and comment
FUCK MEN! Teach your boys not to rape
I guess complaining about white people can be the same thing. Special rules for criticizing oppressors; you’d only hear complaints from right wing folks.
RE: femcelmemes: thanks, had never browsed the community itself before - tame stuff overall :)
I try to keep it positive there, as I've seen similar communities turn into spiraling pits of self hatred. Making fun of weakness is productive, but feeling ashamed is not.
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Long before I was a dad, I once told a dad I saw in a retail store "you're a great dad!" after being in an adjacent aisle and hearing him interact with his kid. He was clearly offput by the input. That was the only thing I said to him; hopefully it had a net positive impact.
This seems really sweet, but feeling watched sort of gives me the creeps. I get that theres a low expectation of privacy in this setting, but its an unsettling reminder of just how little privacy.
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