We were coworkers sharing an office. Also she was married (and didn't identify herself as polyamorous). I didn't want to start drama.
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To be honest, I've had 4 actual crushes so far, and I asked out 3 of them. They all ended in rejection, and the one I didn't ask, I don't know about. I'm moving away soon, I know I won't see her again, and I barely know her, so I decided it's best to leave it at that. We haven't talked much, but it is still a bit of a what if I talked to her more and asked her out when I had the time for that, and the chance?
I was just a kid, get off my back!
Because of my mirror.
Often it’s because I’m just too afraid because the person is ridiculously good looking that I don’t think I have a chance, rejection always sucks. I’ve been with an attractive person or two in my time, so I know it’s not impossible, I’m ok-ish on a good day, but I know I’ll be so… distracted by their good looks that I probably won’t have anything intelligent to say.
There’s also the chance that either of us is in a relationship or workmates, which just isn’t a good mix and eventually leads to problems. Otherwise, I wish casual sex was just a common thing that people just did without any stigma attached to it (assuming STDs weren’t so rampant and safe sex was also just as common).
I wish casual sex was just a common thing that people just did without any stigma attached to it
ugh. Move to Portland. Most people here just sleep around and have no intentions of ever being in a real relationship.
Personally I hate that. But I guess it sure does work for a lot of people.
Lack of self-confidence? Even when given the chance to do so... was probably for the best, I'm in a stable long term relationship now and at the time, I would have been a pretty rubbish boyfriend.
I couldn't be a used car salesman. I wouldn't be able to bring myself to sell someone a lemon.