Well I know I am. I don't like subtlety. Too easy to mistake from friendliness. Be direct and honest or go home.
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I agree with what everyone has already said and...
Some people flirt to practice, or see if they can get a response, to measure their own self worth, to see "if they still got it", as a measure of power, or something to do when bored.
The game ends when the target takes the next step, and then it's no longer fun, and now 'creepy'. You can see similar behavior on dating apps with people who swipe yes, but then reject people in conversation.
So now not only do people have to recognize the hint, they also have to figure out the intention of the hint giver... i.e. was this a serious hint?
The Apple Vision Pro will fix this. You'll get a ❤️ symbol above people's heads when they are interested in you.
Like in Pictionary or Apples to Apples?
Hahh! I'm bad at picking up on anyone's hints!
Women give hints? :p
I ignore their hints because I'm not interested in ever having kids in a world like this and because they hint to bait me into some kind of trouble where they control the narrative.
Lol, men should have a mantra, "She's a WAITRESS, she's just being nice!" "She's a BARTENDER, she's just being fun!" "She's at the grocery checkout, she's just making small talk!"
"She's just a person being nice to other people. You are just a person she is being nice to. Be nice and leave her alone!"
maybe it's more, women feel like they have to give hints because being direct can receive judgment or not be safe. so it's not that they're bad at hinting it's just that they have to use hints a lot more often than we do, and I can't pick up a hint to save my life
I've never had a man not pick up on my interest. I have been called brutally honest though, so maybe I'm a bit more direct than most. I have had the reverse problem where they think normal politeness is an invitation.
It's actually more a question of women's hints being unable to penetrate men's insecurities and generalized incompetence when it comes to intimate matters.