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Most medical literature on trans people assumes that the vast majority of trans people started getting gender dysphoria since being small children. I suspect that a good portion of us got it later than that.

What was your experience with this?

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[–] [email protected] 1 points 9 months ago

A couple of years before puberty for me (or at least, a couple of years before the noticeable physical changes)

[–] [email protected] 1 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (1 children)

I've never liked how I looked. Not really.
I was able to look objectively attractive, I guess, but it never truly made me feel good about myself.

So even without realizing until a couple months ago, I've probably had dysphoria ever since I started caring about my appearance. Which was about the age when puberty did its thing.

Thinking back on it now, it's all coming together.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 9 months ago

Can relate, I never really hated the way I looked, but I definitely did not like the way I looked. Just always felt like I was looking at a thing in the mirror, not really myself.

Those days are more or less over for me, hope you feel the same way.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 9 months ago

It turns out I had dysphoria my entire childhood, I just hadn't identified it as that. I just kind of assumed I was innately ugly and broken.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 9 months ago (1 children)

I don't actually know when, just that it clicked when I finally played as the girl option in a Pokemon game and it felt so right. Mind, part of what made it so slow is that I'm genderfluid, so there were enough times I was firm enough in my identity that, combined with going to a Christian Catholic school, made the times I switch easier to... Well, ignore

[–] [email protected] 1 points 9 months ago

Yeah, I can kinda relate. For me, playing as a girl in games was really one of the few coping mechanisms I had before I started transitioning. Just made me feel correct, y'know? Aside from that pretty much just gender bender anime, couldn't get enough of that stuff.