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(Content warning, discussions of SA and misogyny, mods I might mention politics a bit but I hope this can be taken outside the context of politics and understood as a discussion of basic human decency)

We all know how awful Reddit was when a user mentioned their gender. Immediate harassment, DMs, etc. It's probably improved over the years? But still awful.

Until recently, Lemmy was the most progressive and supportive of basic human dignity of communities I had ever followed. I have always known this was a majority male platform, but I have been relatively pleased to see that positive expressions of masculinity have won out.

All of that changed with the recent "bear vs man" debacle. I saw women get shouted down just for expressing their stories of being sexually abused, repeatedly harassed, dogpiled, and brigaded with downvotes. Some of them held their ground, for which I am proud of them, but others I saw driven to delete their entire accounts, presumably not to return.

And I get it. The bear thing is controversial; we can all agree on this. But that should never have resulted in this level of toxicity!

I am hoping by making this post I can kind of bring awareness to this weakness, so that we can learn and grow as a community. We need to hold one another accountable for this, or the gender gap on this site is just going to get worse.

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[–] [email protected] -1 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Literally how?? Your post here is crying about how Lemmy is full of bigotry, yet that’s simply not true. Lemmy is divided by instances and you should find instances that match your values instead of trying to hold every single instance to a standard. Just delink the trash like Lemmy.ml

How is this post encouraging positive spaces when you’re only whining about how all instances aren’t what you want them to be?

Do you understand the instance concept at all???

[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (1 children)

Comment reported. Rather than removal, as I don't feel you broke a rule, I decided to respond directly.

Instances aren't isolated. Yes, we have individual instances, but they are FEDERATED. We don't have one central governing body, but generally speaking, instances that are federated between one another have very similar views. If you can see this, that means your instance is federated with an instance I can see or am a part of.

Saying to "find an instance that matches your values" shows you have almost no understanding of how the federated technology and ideology works.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago)

If this is a divisive meme and it's divisive across many instances, how is this post going along with the idealogy of federated technonology?