Off My Chest
RULES:
I am looking for mods!
1. The "good" part of our community means we are pro-empathy and anti-harassment. However, we don't intend to make this a "safe space" where everyone has to be a saint. Sh*t happens, and life is messy. That's why we get things off our chests.
2. Bigotry is not allowed. That includes racism, sexism, ableism, homophobia, transphobia, xenophobia, and religiophobia. (If you want to vent about religion, that's fine; but religion is not inherently evil.)
3. Frustrated, venting, or angry posts are still welcome.
4. Posts and comments that bait, threaten, or incite harassment are not allowed.
5. If anyone offers mental, medical, or professional advice here, please remember to take it with a grain of salt. Seek out real professionals if needed.
6. Please put NSFW behind NSFW tags.
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Your name is displayed on your PayPal link, which is linked from post you made (post not a comment). https://lemmy.world/post/14540822
You are sharing all your personal information on Lemmy. Photos, names, locations, tests, court cases, etc.
Photos are dangerous because they can include geographic tagging. They can be reverse image searched to find the photo on other platforms. The faces in the photos can be searched to find their names and social media profiles.
Documents, court, tests, are dangerous because they have identifiers that can be looked up to identify you.
Fundraising will almost always identify you, because money gets tied to your identity at some point, it just needs someone persistent to follow the money, but giving out your personal PayPal link makes this trivial.
Talking about locations, and specific events, gives away your location and timing of being in that location.
Talking about court cases and any uniqueness of court cases, makes it easy to search for you on court database systems.
Anything you post on the internet, is there forever, including Lemmy. Especially lemmy. By its distributed and federated nature, even if you delete a post it has gone out to all of the instances, and the deletion is just a database table entry. 1,000 Lemmy instances have copies of all of your posts. Don't put anything on the internet, but especially Lemmy, that you don't want to be made public.
Your nature of debate, and your conception of reality, are really interesting to people. And they are incentivized to look up your information, to prove you wrong. When you talk about court cases, when you talk about timelines on filing, when you talk about missing persons, these are the things people on the internet like to look up and satisfy themselves. You create many situations where people go oh that can't be right, and they naturally want to look it up and see if they were right or you're crazy. Sometimes they want to share their findings.
As an example, you said your divorce proceedings were dismissed because the respondent didn't show up to court. That's not something United States courts do. So curious person, would use the information you've posted, and look up your court case, and see if it was actually dismissed like you said it was, or if there was some confusion in the court decision and your perception. I bring this up, because a lot of your posts are about your personal history, and then you want to debate people about what happened, citing that you're lived experience differs from what people expect. That's genuinely going to make people want to look it up. It's baiting people to research you. Intentional or not. Most people here, the vast majority, don't have an interest in you as a person. But they do have an interest in being right. So in many of your conversations, a debate happens, and you're telling people they're wrong, and they really really want to be right. So that's when the research happens
I provide this data with no malice, I am just trying to make you aware of the data you're leaking, you're posting habits and encouraging people to look things up about you.