Disclaimer: I have no quarrel with the mods using the term in the creation of this community. I understand why they chose it, as even if they share my disagreement with the term when applied to ADHD, there's not really a better inclusive term. "Mental illness" is really the only other option, and naming a community that would probably invite darker discussions that the mods might not be prepared to handle.
Another disclaimer: I think the term is perfectly valid when applied to autism, as autism is not, to the best of my knowledge, a mental illness so much as a difference in processing. Being autistic is only "bad" in the sense that our society discourages autistic traits. (Apologies if this is wrong; I'm neither autistic nor especially knowledgeable about autism.)
The term "neurodivergent" implies that there's nothing wrong with you if you have ADHD--you're just special and different. But my ADHD is an illness that requires treatment. A lot of people will tell you that the only reason ADHDers struggle is because society is set up wrong, but I don't think that's true, at least for me. Being unable to remember anything, unable to self-start, and hypersensitive to rejection would be massive problems in any world. Sure, the world today is particularly brutal for ADHDers in a way we could probably mitigate if we reorganized society to be kinder, but that doesn't mean ADHD isn't ultimately a disorder that some people need to treat with medication and therapy.
Lazy reply cause I'm tired, but could it be that your frustration lies on the neurodiversity movement instead of the term neurodivergent? A lot of your frustrations align with others' criticisms of the neurodiversity movement, and I'm wondering if - because most people will conflate one with the other - you simply don't consider yourself part of the neurodiversity movement instead?
I'm asking this because a lot of people here are saying they're two different things, but if you go on like reddit they will talk about it like they're the same thing. I want to make it clear that, they're not, but if they're being talked about like they are in widespread culture then I can understand your frustration with a term that is associated with something you don't feel a part of, even if that's not actually what it means
Perhaps. My only real exposure to either has been through social media, so that's what my thoughts are based on. But I do feel like even if you divorce it from the neurodiversity movement, the word "neurodivergent" is to "mentally ill" as "differently abled" is to "disabled": an unhelpful and somewhat idealized version of a more appropriate term. Though that specifically applies to it regarding ADHD, not every difference in neurology, as I said.
Oooo okay that's a very interesting connection. To be fair though, I do have my gripes about how people treat the word "mental illness", in that a lot of people treat it like it's some gross word to avoid, that there's a stigma that nono you shouldn't identify with that. (Personally I don't think the word "mentally ill" should have as bad of a connotation as it does right now, but that's just my opinion and I don't expect others to think the same.)
So I can see where you're coming from with that. Even if you look at the initial, historical definition, it doesn't negate the fact that the word neurodivergent is mainly used today as a way to say "different, but with a good connotation instead of a bad one", and with a definition (vaguely) like that it can start to border on some toxic positivity. And I'm not sure if you've experienced something like this but I do find that I tend to think that people who put me on a pedestal or think of me as special or something don't actually want who I actually am and all of them just think that I'm an exception to the actually negative stuff they hate. I'm not sure if I'm making any sense, uh tell me if this is confusing or not.
I don't have ADHD, nor autism, just... suspected some flavor of neurodivergence. I don't feel confident in putting it into a specific thing until I get tested. But I do identify with being neurodivergent because there's nothing else to call me really when I don't know what I have yet. I don't really identify with the neurodiversity movement though, but I appreciate their existence. Just wanna put that out there so you know my biases.
I also realized you're here to relate, not debate, so just a quick apology for fueling more debates. I don't want to speak over your experiences, so I'll ask instead, but do you mind if I give my own opinion about what "neurodivergent" means in relation to "mentally ill"?
I agree with you that "I have a mental illness" shouldn't get a horrified reaction anymore than "I have an illness" does. It's a shitty stigma we should try to break down.
Yeah, the toxic positivity is a big part of what I'm referring to here. I've been deeply disappointed to hear my fellow leftists say things like, "Under socialism, you wouldn't need your ADHD meds! You're not disordered, you're just living in a capitalist society that doesn't value you!" Which, while it's true that living in a capitalist society makes things much harder on people with ADHD, I don't think it's true that none of us would struggle or need meds under a better system.
I totally understand why you identify with the term neurodivergent. It really does seem to be the best term that exists for people like you.
Go ahead. I'm perfectly down to have a discussion.