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submitted 7 months ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 7 months ago (2 children)

Yes. And also for some reason my gf won't let me go down on her.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 7 months ago (1 children)

She may have insecurities, unsure of how her body looks or smells, or whether or not she's "normal" down there. Fear of judgement can be a huge mood killer.When I was growing up I was never told there was anything wrong with me, but discussion of bodies was rather taboo. It took MANY years before I was comfortable with myself. Also, if she's ever experienced any trauma, that could make her less comfortable as well.

Are you guys able to have discussions about intimate matters? What turns you on, what kinds of touch, how and where? She may or may not know why she's not comfortable with it, but communication is so important for the health of the relationship. Patience, kindness, and to be supportive and non-judgemental of each other goes far with intimate matters.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 7 months ago

I don't think she has any trauma. She would have told me otherwise. It could be the thing with self esteem but I don't understand she let me do it before then suddenly she just said she does not like even though she seemed to enjoy it before.

[–] sukhmel 2 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Also, sometimes there are health issues that may escalate after oral sex, e.g. cystitis

[–] [email protected] 1 points 7 months ago

I dont think it is that