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A "Showerthought" is a simple term used to describe the thoughts that pop into your head while you're doing everyday things like taking a shower, driving, or just daydreaming. The best ones are thoughts that many people can relate to and they find something funny or interesting in regular stuff.

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[–] [email protected] 23 points 1 year ago (4 children)

Is it really the phones or is it just that connecting to people after high school gets harder?

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago

True, school is nice in that it forces you to hang out with your peers, and that isn’t really emulated later in life. But I don’t think that’s the point.

The point is that it’s just tougher to have non distracted conversations. Or even non distracted periods of time hanging out.

It just feels awkward when someone is sitting there texting with someone else in front of you. Or just looking something up on their phone “really quick”, and then is MIA from the conversation for five minutes.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

This is it. They don't warn you in high school, but after school your friends will be in colleges or jobs miles away. This is just the way it is and if anything, cellphones would theoretically allow people to stay connected.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

Smartphones turned everyone into chronic flakes though too. You can always bail at the last minute on flimsy plans you made when you were drunk because "you're not feeling it".

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

Both. It makes it easier to keep in touch technically, but whether or not they are responsive is a whole other story.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 year ago

Well, connecting gets harder in the sense that we're no longer all forced together into the same space, but phones have added a severe second layer to that. It disconnects us from those physically around us in order to digitally connect us with people not physically present.

Prior to phones, eye contact was pretty frequent. More small talk between strangers happened. People were far more aware of those around them. That's just not the case now.

Again, smartphones have brought a lot of good to our lives, but the physical connection to people around us has been paralyzed. It really is sad, and I'm sad that it's not something I'll ever experience again: a space that physically connected. I'm sad that younger generations will never experience it their whole lives.