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My 2nd grade daughter has tested Highly Academically and Intellectually Gifted (HAG in NC). What do I do? Please advice. (self.parenting)

submitted 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) by nieceandtows to c/[email protected]

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We didn’t grow up in the US, so we don’t really know much about the gifted programs. She has scored 99 in CogAT, and 96.5 in ITBS, so she qualifies to the HAG program in NC. We can either switch to a different school that has the HAG curriculum, or keep her in the current school under the next lower level curriculum (AIG). The school says their AIG program is excellent, and that many HAG students have opted to stay in the school’s AIG program.

I want to do what is best for her social, emotional, and academic growth, so please share your experience/horror stories/success stories with the gifted programs, and your advice on which one to choose.

She's an only child and a bit naive, if that matters.

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[–] [email protected] 14 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (1 children)

What does she want?

Also keep this in mind: your daughter got to where she is at her current school, so it may not be bad to stick to what's working.

The vast majority of child success comes from parent involvement, not curriculum.

Basic stuff like participating with them in activities like schoolwork, reading, games, etc is what largely makes or breaks success.

Id start by taking your kid to check out the place, let her see what it looks like, maybe ask for a quick tour.

Then after, ask her what she wants and listen.

If you get her in a better program but she hates it, or it damages your relationship, that likely will be a heavy net negative on her long term success.

An enthusiastic kid in a normal program will typically go farther than an unhappy kid in a premium program.

[–] nieceandtows 1 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Would it work if we place her in the program and pull her out after a year?

[–] [email protected] 9 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

Ehh, another big issue is upending their life, frequently changing schools isn't great either.

I'd say only change schools if she's enthusiastic about it, and then stick to it even if she's kinda unhappy after (that's sorta inevitable, FOMO happens in kids just as much as adults)

Upending her life twice will likely be not great, best to keep things stable.

Unless the school is really bad, you'll have to use your judgement on that to assess.