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How to get out of an uncomfortable egg culture situation with this one simple trick.

Real talk: Calling people eggs is a violation of the egg prime directive, and is considered invalidating as you are trying to say that a person is not the gender they identify as, that their identity is invalid. Don't call people eggs, like ever, it's extremely uncool.

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[–] [email protected] 59 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) (5 children)

Wait when did "egg" in the context of gender and sexuality become a thing?

"You egg" is an old insult in New Zealand since at least the 1980s meaning you are a dork or loveable idiot.

Edit: there's heaps of examples in Taika Waititi's NZ films.

[–] [email protected] 41 points 7 months ago (2 children)

Realising one is trans is often called "cracking your egg". Calling someone an egg in this context means insinuating the person is trans (and hasn't realised it yet).

[–] [email protected] 5 points 7 months ago (1 children)

@tb_ thanks, got it. Has it been a thing for many years or is it new?

[–] [email protected] 16 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Not many years, but far from new in internet time scales. Maybe in the last decade or so.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 7 months ago (1 children)

@jawa21 now that I'm really thinking about it, I think I've probably seen people using it to refer to themselves but not using it on others as an insult.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 7 months ago

That's how it's supposed to be used, r/egg_irl was pretty big, and now there is [email protected]

Both are mostly people suspecting they are trans, and coming to accept themselves

[–] [email protected] 4 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Not necessarily trans, it's just being unsure about which gender direction you want to choose. Nonbinary and "actually I am cis" are also valid outcomes after cracking.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 7 months ago (2 children)

Wild that you just called gender a choice

[–] [email protected] 1 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) (2 children)
[–] [email protected] 5 points 7 months ago

Kinda? But not really. Sorta like sexual orientation.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 7 months ago

Isnt it what LGBTQ+ community has been fighting for everyone to understand?

[–] [email protected] 1 points 7 months ago

Didn't even think about that interpretation of my comment, lol

When you grow up your sex is like the default setting for your gender. I meant it in the sense that when you grow up you get to choose how you want to express yourself. Deviation from the default setting as a choice, not like you can choose your gender. There are very strong correlations in the brain structure of trans people with people of their whished-to-be-born-as sex.

[–] [email protected] 28 points 7 months ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 2 points 7 months ago (1 children)

@JohnDClay @Malgas omg this is as good as the time I found out Hieronymous Bosch had painted a kiwi bird.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) (1 children)

Can you share a Pic of the Kiwi bird please ? 🥺

[–] [email protected] 3 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) (1 children)

@Wutchilli you mean in the painting? Sure, look in the bottom right corner of the third side of the Haywain Triptych.

Edit: detail

[–] [email protected] 1 points 7 months ago
[–] [email protected] 16 points 7 months ago (1 children)

It's similar to being in the closet. When you come out as a trans person, you "come out of your shell" so to speak. As such, people who haven't are considered to be "eggs" still inside their shells.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 7 months ago (2 children)

While we are talking about that, wouldn't chrysalis be more fitting?

When the trans person hatches a beautiful butterfly emerges from the chrysalis.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 7 months ago

They say that when the egg cracks, a cute chick comes out. Chick referring to both a trans woman and a baby chicken. Doesn't work for trans men but that's how the term started I believe.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 7 months ago

Perhaps. I didn't make the analogy. Personally, as a completely cis person, I think they both work really well. Maybe there's some more significant meaning from another perspective.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) (2 children)

I think if you make sure to call someone an "igg", or preferably, a "bliddy igg", then should still be fine

[–] [email protected] 7 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Preferably while listening to Iminim's Lose Yoursilf.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) (1 children)

@Viking_Hippie aww man now I know how Americans feel when people reference Trump's stupid sayings as if it's their national culture.

Hadn't thought about those assholes in a while.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 7 months ago

Sorry, but I had to 😁

[–] [email protected] 3 points 7 months ago (1 children)

@porous_grey_matter I think I just need to make sure I only use it on other Kiwis.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Not the birds, though. That would be the equivalent of calling them babies, which I'd imagine they'd find very insulting.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 7 months ago (1 children)

@Viking_Hippie if a bird is being an egg I will tell it. #nofilter

Fun fact: kiwi have the biggest egg relative to their body size of any bird in the world.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 7 months ago

if a bird is being an egg I will tell it. #nofilter

Look at this badass talking at eggs! So principled! 😄

[–] [email protected] 6 points 7 months ago

Also Shakespeare:

What, you egg! [He Stabs Him]

Macbeth Act 4, Scene 2