Transfem
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Some helpful links:
- The Gender Dysphoria Bible // In depth explanation of the different types of gender dysphoria.
- Trans Voice Help // A community here on blahaj.zone for voice training.
- LGBTQ+ Healthcare Directory // A directory of LGBTQ+ accepting Healthcare providers.
- Trans Resistance Network // A US-based mutual aid organization to help trans people facing state violence and legal discrimination.
- TLDEF's Trans Health Project // Advice about insurance claims for gender affirming healthcare and procedures.
- TransLifeLine's ID change Library // A comprehensive guide to changing your name on any US legal document.
- Gender Spectrum // Resources for youth, parents and family, educators, mental health professionals and faith leaders.
Support Hotlines:
- The Trevor Project // Web chat, phone call, and text message LGBTQ+ support hotline.
- TransLifeLine // A US/Canada LGBTQ+ phone support hotline service. The US line has Spanish support.
- LGBT Youthline.ca // A Canadian LGBT hotline support service with phone call and web chat support. (4pm - 9:30pm EST)
- 988lifeline // A US only Crisis hotline with phone call, text and web chat support. Dedicated staff for LGBTQIA+ youth 24/7 on phone service, 3pm to 2am EST for text and web chat.
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It takes time to figure it out. There are loads of videos on YouTube and Tik Tok talking specifically about feminizing makeup for trans fems. The key is really to learn about where to place concealer and color corrector, how to blend foundation, if you have hooded eyes where to apply highlighter and eyeshadow and eye liner. It's a lot to dig into. I'm very much still learning makeup myself, but I try and break things down into bite-size bits that I can work on. Coming out at from "I do not know how to do my makeup" and having a direct goal of "I want to know how to do my makeup" was too much for me, personally. Instead I try and research individual things, like eyeliner and how to best apply it for my eye type. Learning what concealer patterns look best on me has been a big one lately.
Buy what you can at the drug store, not that they're usually very cheap anymore but still. Get into it, find content creators who talk about makeup that you like. I love watching get ready with me and get unready with me style videos because it shows you the whole process of makeup application from beginning to end. And there's soooo many creators out there making.that kind of content, loads of trans fems as well.
I completely feel you on the discouragement of putting on makeup and seeing that it didn't do exactly what I wanted it to, that I didn't look like how I imagined I would. But thats where learning comes in, where getting interested in it comes in, where practice comes in. Keep at it, and make changes and see what other trans women do and with enough work you can get it too :)
Do you have some videos you recommend?
And yeah it can be a bit tiring (transition in general can be), but ig I’ll learn one step at a time