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I understand. I think I lack self-discipline, because I don't do things that I know I won't like. I just thought that I would maybe feel happier after eating 3 meals a day for a week, but now that I think about it, maybe it's just to not feel bad later, right?
Do you have any tips to get self-discipline, or do I have to change the way I feel about responsibilities? If it's the latter, how do I go about it?
Thank you very much!
Just try to find extra ways to extract enjoyment out of the tougher tasks. Turn it into a game AND REWARD yourself for getting through it.
One of the things you realize at some point is that your brain craves structure. Maybe it's not true for everyone but that is my experience.
The hard part is, your brain wants to do the most rewarding thing in the moment. This is bad for building and maintaining structure.
So, what I might suggest is this:
You can't plan every moment of your life, but you can build a plan that applies every day. Stopping to plan for "tomorrow" every day is exhausting, but planning for the week is easier. Also, eliminate as much choice as you can. If you feel fine eating the same thing for breakfast and lunch every day because it's easier that way then do it. Don't let anyone make you feel shame over it.
I also like to reaffirm a montra that comes from addiction recovery that I think applies to people with ADHD. Instead of thinking, "I have to do these things forever", I think "I just have to do these things today". Don't worry about tomorrow, just work on today. If you're keeping track, you'll be surprised with how consistent you can really be, and it'll hurt less when you slip up.