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Unsure how to proceed with exploring my gender identity. (lemmy.blahaj.zone)

submitted 1 year ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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Title. I go about my day-to-day life as a man still even though I don't entirely feel that way. But then again, how do I feel? It's weird, I really strongly identify with the nb flag; it makes me super happy when I look at it. I want to be like other enbies but it's hard to do so because I feel so stuck in the way I present myself now. I would feel super stupid making a change to myself, you know?

Anyways, I guess I just wanted to use the opportunity of this new site by asking you all for advice. Have you been in this situation before? What should I do? Thanks, love you all. <3

koi

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

I was lucky enough to have an environment (flatmates, close friends) where I felt comfortable just trying around with presentation, names, pronouns, where I also felt safe about them not gossiping about me or anything like that.

And, when trying something new, it's normal to not have it quite figured out and there's going to be things that you're not sure about and that don't stick, but in my experience, there were also some things that I noticed felt great and right and good.

You can start with small things, like nail polish in nb colors or stuff like that :)

Just one last note: I totally get looking up to other nb folk that seem to have it all figured out, but: a) they probably haven't! and b) it's important to think about what you want and feel comfortable with. Making baby steps is fine, figuring out some things you like on other people feel awkward on you is fine!

wishing you all the best in trying stuff out <3