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Why do hardly any straight men write about sex and dating? (www.theguardian.com)

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

Don't dismiss the PUA too quickly. There is a lot of BS in the PUA scene, but also some basic considerations that men don't get taught in any other way.

The traditional view used to be: men watch porn, women read romance.

That's not a constructive way to get anywhere, and arguably has been making things worse with the wider availability of more violent and objectifying porn.

Under a general veneer of "getting laid", the PUA also teach stuff like:

Don't be the creepy stalker
Have some empathy
Treat your partner like a human being, not just a sex object
...ok, so maybe that's it.

May not sound like much, but it's still a step above the "take, use, leave" that gets taught otherwise.