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I'm totally cool with polyamory and its variants, but this infographic definitely paints monoamory as a lesser choice which is cringe (it also says "idealized monoamory" instead of just monoamory which I don't get).
Don't judge other's choices, doesn't matter if their choice is polyamory or monoamory.
100% agree. Whoever made this "guide" was attempting to portray monoamory as a bad thing, maybe even worse than cheating.
It reads as though the author is someone single, or someone in an unhappy polyamorous relationship with feelings of resentment towards those in monoamorous relationships.
I agree with not judging. I think monoamory is just labeled as "idealized" because it's the current societal standard. Some people who don't mesh with monogamy may not know there's another option, and so it can be helpful to say that monogamy is only just that, idealized, and not actually necessarily better.
I don't see how any of that is objective aside from it being the most commonly accepted, or "pushed" in your words.
A successful two person relationship requires a significant amount of compromise and sacrifice. How does having more partners lessen that?
All of the others - short of anarchy - also have their rules. For example, polyfidelity is nearly identical to monoamory except you now have to consider the dos and don'ts of both of your partners making it objectively more complicated than monoamory.
That's not a rule to get around, its called respecting your partners wishes. Its a basic common decency regardless of how many partners you have.
It does not impact your freedoms. Its not like you literally can't cheat, you just cant cheat and continue a relationship with them. Everyone has their own terms. Yeah, if you can't handle not cheating, then don't date a person that wants a monogamous relationship. It doesn't mean its "inferior", it just means you don't want it. Grow up.
You are acting childish because you are claiming relationships you don't like are automatically inferior to those you do like. I don't care what kind of relationship you prefer, its irrelevant. Yes. Grow up.
There is nothing to prove you wrong with because its an opinion. I never said you were wrong, its just overzealous to declare your opinion as the ultimate truth. I have said this multiple times, I absolutely do not give a shit about your opinion on relationships. You have made it overwhelmingly clear that your opinion isn't worth much anyway. Not to mention the fact that I haven't even stated my opinion on the subject yet. The truth is, I don't even know what relationship style I prefer. I've only tried one, so instead of declaring myself benevolent dictator of love to feel like I'm worth something, I accept that I have limited experience with the subject. If you haven't gotten the point yet, then there isn't much I can do to help you. Based on how you act, I'm guessing you're very young, so hopefully you'll figure it out when you actually do grow up.
"Objective"
Wow, you really don't know what words mean, do you? Not surprising since you sound like a toddler.
If you ever actually experience your first relationship you'll learn why literally every word you're spouting is complete bullshit.
But more partners = more rules
Do you even believe the bullshit you're spewing?
"Children can't handle different opinions"
Oh the irony is fucking delicious.
You're dead wrong about everything, sorry, thanks for playing. Grow up.
So what you're telling me is that you have conditions for your relationships?
Lmao yeah that's totally why you're single. Keep telling yourself that.
Having had both types of relationship. This is such backwards thinking, with most poly relationships you will have to make severe sacrifices to the time spent with most of your partners, and often end up with more non romantic relationships. Breakups are more complicated. Not to mention how much more communication it requires to keep together. Calling that anything but a major compromise is just lying. I am not saying any type of relationship is more valid. But that they all come with different compromises which work better for different kinds of people. Just because it works better for you doesn't mean it does for everyone.
Dude you clearly have absolutely 0 experience in this matter, just stop.
Lmao you can't just say "this is objective" after the most fucking subjective sentence ever written. You're clueless.