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Cringe rule (lemmy.world)

submitted 9 months ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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[–] [email protected] 12 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Please explain to me how someone e.g. publicly professing their love of anime directly negatively impacts anyone

[–] [email protected] 5 points 9 months ago (2 children)

Cringe is relative. Almost any topic can negatively impact others in certain contexts, but presentation is also a key part of harmful cringe. It can offend people who have bad experiences with the topic, or it can derail the conversation and make it difficult for others to voice their opinion. If someone brings up their love for anime without it relating to the discussion, it shows that they aren't considerate of other people.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 9 months ago (2 children)

Got any example? uwu

[–] [email protected] 2 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Autistic info dumps are a prime example of this. It isn't that we mean to ignore the feelings of others, it's that we have trouble recognizing when to stop. However, I have killed many great conversations because of my cringe rants, especially when I was younger.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 9 months ago

Mine was a joke post, but thanks for answering anyway.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

That's not "cringe" though. That's just a lack of social awareness.

Let's be careful not to confuse the fact that autistic people have trouble knowing when it's appropriate to inject something into a conversation with the content of what they inject. It's all too easy for someone to conclude that anime itself is bad, or that everyone who likes it is bad, because the people who tend to like talking about it don't know when it's appropriate to do so. This conflation, I believe, is the driving force behind cringe culture. I've seen this happen far too many times to far too many subjects, including most if not all of my own special interests.

Saying that autistic people lacking social awareness is bad is completely uncontroversial. Attempting to correct this by labelling it "cringe", and, intentionally or not, them it's their interests that are the problem, is not only wrong but harmful.