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[–] [email protected] 24 points 11 months ago

The article makes the argument that she is not the male beauty standard for women, but the female one.

That's kinda wild tbh. Which female beauty standard is that supposed to refer to? What straight women buying into hegemonial femininity want to be like? What queer women find hot? These two standards tend to be not the same type of woman, and the latter in particular usually isn't one narrowly defined type of woman in the first place, because the entire point of a sapphic desire that defines itself in opposition to the hegemonnial way of sexualizing women is to view each other as subjects, not as objects, which only works when you understand our beauty as an expression of ourself, not as a fulfillment of an abstract and policed ideal beauty standard that by definition must always exclude most women because most women are not of the same race, body shape etc.

Which, btw, is a position that i've not only seen in all kinds of lesbian communities, but found a ton of straight dudes to very enthusiastically agree on, because viewing women as human and being able to find more than 1% of the female population hot are both kind of a prerequisite if you realistically want a fulfilling relationship with a woman, which surprisingly tends to be something most straight men actually want.

Or, tl;dr: Reactionary anti-feminists who enforce hegemonial gender roles fight to make everyone unhappy, including other cishet dudes.