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Harping on people to get married from up in the ivory tower fails to engage with reality of life in the dating trenches.

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 11 months ago

Me too bud, I had to relearn a lot. For me there was a ton of religious upbringing that taught me that talking to girls is taboo at all, and it didn't prep me at all for the real world. It took me years to realize that girls were just like boys when you're talking to them - there's literally no difference. Something a lot of people here would just eyeroll at but for me it was a major revelation. It took a very good (female) friend to help me realize that. She and I could chat for hours about video games, movies, whatever.

It's not an easy or fun job, working on yourself, learning how you handle different situations. It's a long process and personally I learned things about myself that I didn't like, I had to change. I remember thinking people I worked with thought "He's the cool mysterious guy" when it turns out they all thought "He's an absolute asshole. Avoid him". I took some hard punches learning all of that. But - I came out better for learning it.

I wish you luck on your journey. Self improvement pays off 100 fold and I fully support you for it!