Over the years I've worked with lots of cool people, and I regularly have coffee or lunch with some that I'm closer to, and drinks with groups of people who get on well together.

I'm generally quite introverted but enjoy socialising in short bursts, so it works well for me. Having kids is helpful as an excuse for after work drinks because I can say I'll come for the first hour but then need to get home to help with kid's bed time.

I remember reading on reddit a few years back that people who had moved here found it weird how little interaction kiwis have with their friends, and how little socialising colleagues did even when they got on well, so these days I make a special effort.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I think I read the same post....

I have two D&D groups that I'm part of now, we meet monthly and I started rock climbing again (after a almost 20 year break) weekly. So my social interaction outside of work has increased significantly in the past two years especially.

Before that once I got time away from the family, I'd go to a movie alone, or read a book in a quite area by myself.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

I recently started playing D&D again (after a break of around 30 years!)... it's a lot of fun, and good from a social point of view, without having to worry much about small talk or keeping a conversation going. And it's cool that D&D/TTRPG has become a bit more widely accepted these days. When I played at high school, it was definitely confined to the complete outcasts (like me)

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

It is good that TTRPG is a more accepted thing. There is more interest then in the past and mostly I find people care less about others are into these days.

Maybe that is societal progress.....