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[–] [email protected] 2 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (3 children)

meeting my partner's mum tonight for dinner. she's gonna be in town for a month. i saw her a few days ago, before she even said "how are you" she asked "did you gain some weight, i noticed your face is rounder now".

it's the darn meds, i'm doing IF still and my lifestyle is the same, but just getting fatter and fatter :/

[–] [email protected] 1 points 11 months ago

Sorry to hear. I'm also on med and gained 3 kilos in a short amount of time. These med sucks, but we need them =/.

I cannot lower my food intake that much as I'm worried I won't have enough calories and nutrients.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Arh, break a leg. It's always darn meds things up XD.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 11 months ago

Have to reduce food intake further… or incorporate a ton of protein lol. I’m too broke for that rn.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (1 children)

I really don't understand why the older generation cares about whether we look fat and whether we're becoming fat. Like c'mon... It's technically fine as long as you don't reach unhealthy levels. Don't feel bad about the comments, it's just what meds do to people.

My mom has been nagging me since forever. Even now that I am as slim as I have never been(imagine it takes till 23 for me to become actually slim lol), she's still nagging me because I still have thigh fat. I'm aware that it's still not good enough, but I'd appreciate if she could cut me some slack... It's not like the fat will disappear overnight. She kept saying I should aim to be like that one woman who's super tall but has super thin legs then I'll be a beauty like her 🌚

[–] [email protected] 1 points 11 months ago (1 children)

i think they come from a position of care, our elders have different ways of showing love. So I try not to let them get to me.

so long as you're happy with where you are that's all that matters.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 11 months ago

That's true... I'm more inclined to believe in the BMI theory, although body fat percentage does not directly correlate with body mass.