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There's no need to prove stuff like this to anyone. People nowadays need to feel validated by putting everything out on social media and being bathed in positive feedback.
Putting your bank balance out there for clout just draws attention to places it doesn't need to be drawn to. Let haters hate! If you enjoy what you do and get paid for it, then no amount of hateful comments should slow you down.
On another social media site that is losing relevance by the day, I remember two guys (edit: normally I don't assume every poster is a man, but I feel confident in this one) were getting into some argument that got personal in the "you're a no life loser" kind of way, and one of them started taking photos of the sports cars in his garage to prove he wasn't a loser. It was one of the most bizarre things I'd seen. Like dude had no self awareness of how foolish it made him look to think that anyone would care about his material possessions.
It got even more surreal when the other guy did the same damn thing. Also photos of sports cars, also apparently proving that he wasn't the loser and the other guy was.
It was incredible to watch them both continue to insist that the other one was a loser and themself wasn't, whilst also being perfect mirror images of one another. It was the spiderman meme.
I interjected to point out how sad they were both being, and one of them stopped replying and the other one agreed with me and said he had expected the other guy to delete his account after one of his particularly epic ownages. I couldn't particularly identify which ownage he was talking about.
I don't remember if I pointed out that my comment was about both of them, or if I just left it alone out of pity.
We get it: you don't like sports cars
storms off to garage to take photos of sports cars to impress internet people
it's like a nature documentary
"Here we see two human males competing to see which has the finest plumage, to decide who gets to mate. Unbeknownst to them however, while they're distracted a less opulent male has courted the female."
I was having a bad day.
Now kiss.
What if I have a constant, crippling need for validation
Show your bank account balance to your therapist
You can always show me your bank account. Your pin number, perhaps send over your ATM card as icing in the cake.
Find someone important in your life. It doesn't have to be a spouse. It can be a friend, family, even a pet.
It's an incredible feeling to get approval and validation from people who think you're a significant part of their world.