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How do you emotionally process potentially misogynistic targeting? (beehaw.org)

submitted 1 year ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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So I had a situation at work where the project lead refused to communicate with me, and instead went to my boss about everything. I thought it was me, but my (male) boss suggested it might be misogyny. (My work is male dominated. I'm the only female lead of my role in the company.)

I occasionally run into situations where someone, man or woman, not only dislikes me but does everything they can to destroy me. I figure I'm just offputting, but I've had unrelated comments from others that it is because I'm direct and opinionated, and not afraid to defend my opinion.

I'm having a hard time mentally processing the opposing concepts that I'm a bad person, and that is why I make this kind of enemy, and that there's nothing wrong with me, it's their problem.

For the record, I have all kinds of self- deprecating behaviors to try to soften my opinions, and they generally work. Just sometimes, there is no way for me to have a perspective and not be offensive to someone.

I'd welcome your experiences and thoughts, if any.

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

Yes, the "I think" is exactly the type of thing I meant about self- deprecating behaviors. I am not good at naturally soft language, but it's exhausting to be constantly trying to monitor that.

Thank you so much for being a sounding board.