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[–] [email protected] 22 points 1 year ago (5 children)

I know it sounds like I'm taking the piss, but I don't think I've encountered a kinder, more accepting community than Hexbear, due to admins here actually enforcing civility rules. And I'm sure there's an equally chill instance for people who aren't interested in tearing the arms off their boss and drinking blood directly from the limbless wounds.

[–] [email protected] 22 points 1 year ago

Hexbear is literally the only place on the entirety of the internet where I can be vulnerable in my posts without worry it's going to be used in harassment against me by some reactionary freak.

r/chapotraphouse was one of the most accepting and inclusive subreddits of all time on reddit when it came to not punching down, and Hexbear is orders of magnitude better than even that.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Y'all could be the kindest people but I'd never know because I simply cannot stand the amount of inline media spam in every single @hexbear thread. It's obnoxious to read and detracts from any amount of intelligent conversation that could be occurring.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

The unfortunate thing is that these show up as small emotes on hexbear.net, so the users generally don't realize they're huge disruptive images to others.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

If one can get past the 20 most invasive, tactless, eternally-online members of Hexbear and Lemmygrad, they're generally great places. Unfortunately, those people are the main ones getting attention and alienating people on other instances.

It's disheartening whenever I see a legitimate chance to teach someone something and a Hex account just makes an absolute malicious shitpost that isn't even worth calling a dunk. That, and a couple of highly-active users in particular who will consistently take the worst possible interpretation of a post and insist anyone who disagrees is a bad actor. Sankara would roll in his grave if he could see those post histories.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago

ngl, i love those folks. i agree we could chill out in some situations.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

That is just because they see you as one of them.

Encounter them as a non-hexbear, and they will either bring up the most abrasive takes on communism, worship dictators like gods, or just shitpost because they know they can't win.

Have a look how they treat other communities, and you'll see what I mean.